TheWalrus
I Am The Walrus
I have researched a lot about Borderline (BPD) and saw my own therapist. in my opinion, she had "traits" as a teen. I don't know if it can be inherited, but I would swear her bio dad has it. I always just thought he was an addict, but our entire marriage was unstable friendships, jobs, unexplained rage and anger, emotional blackmail...I thought it was his addiction and left when I couldn't stand it and he wouldn't change.
She has an addictive personality and is addicted to meth, pot, pills, huffing...you name it. I think it is the drug use that brought it full blown although she says she has always felt "divided."
She is brilliant. She knows what it is and in no way denies she has it. She has researched it endlessly. However, she does not want or "need" therapy - for Borderline (BPD) or addiction. With a diagnosis, she now throws it up as an "excuse" for her behavior and an expectation that everyone just tolerate it bc she can't "help" it. But when confronted with her need for help, she truly thinks she doesn't need help and that she is smarter than any therapist she has spoken to. (After research, I personally think she is also narcissistic.)
I know from my own research and my own therapy that while this is her personality, she does know right from wrong. I agree that consequences won't change her - she has zero fear of negative consequences. To give you an example, she was with a boyfriend who she was head over heels for just a few months ago - she would not shut up about him. Total idealization, Mr. Perfect, blah blah. She got him to take her in and then she completely devalued and degraded him and he left her. She flicked it off like nothing and has already moved onto her next "big love." She does the same thing with friendships, family...but she does not think she is the one who needs to change. She walks away from everyone with a big "F" you and no looking back.
She has an addictive personality and is addicted to meth, pot, pills, huffing...you name it. I think it is the drug use that brought it full blown although she says she has always felt "divided."
She is brilliant. She knows what it is and in no way denies she has it. She has researched it endlessly. However, she does not want or "need" therapy - for Borderline (BPD) or addiction. With a diagnosis, she now throws it up as an "excuse" for her behavior and an expectation that everyone just tolerate it bc she can't "help" it. But when confronted with her need for help, she truly thinks she doesn't need help and that she is smarter than any therapist she has spoken to. (After research, I personally think she is also narcissistic.)
I know from my own research and my own therapy that while this is her personality, she does know right from wrong. I agree that consequences won't change her - she has zero fear of negative consequences. To give you an example, she was with a boyfriend who she was head over heels for just a few months ago - she would not shut up about him. Total idealization, Mr. Perfect, blah blah. She got him to take her in and then she completely devalued and degraded him and he left her. She flicked it off like nothing and has already moved onto her next "big love." She does the same thing with friendships, family...but she does not think she is the one who needs to change. She walks away from everyone with a big "F" you and no looking back.