moving on!

[standswithcourage]

You are right. I will put in a little money and try to get some books for hiim to read - to enjoy not rehab books or relligion. I so want to try and make him see what he is doing but I cant. Thanks for all the support. I am listening. I think I will make an appointment at the tatoo parlor and see about that eyeliner tattoo!!!!! Thanks all.

 

[Abbey]

Time off gives some good time to think. If you have no creature comforts, you have only yourself.

When J was in prison, we didn't put money into his account for anything. He worked in the kitchen and made enough money to buy a stamp to write. HE chose for a long time not to do that. Fine. But, he somehow hit ground zero. It took YEARS.

It's called growing up. When in jail/prison, they are relatively safe, fed, and have a roof over their head. It's probably better than being on the streets.

Hang in there. Don't do the guilt thing.

Abbey

 

[standswithcourage]

Thanks I am trying not to. I went to Alanon - I always seem to have good advice for others but cant follow my own without second guessing myself. However, I know I cannot allow myself to live with him coming in and out all hours, tearing up the house, wondering if he is using drugs, anymore! If they give him Drug court I believe he will have to live at home - cant happen! I believe he will turn it down. The ministry man said he should turn it down and that he would talk to him - one way says he needs rehab - but that is what I think - it wont do any good if he isnt serious - I am just fearful of when he gets out if he is not court ordered somewhere I dont know what will happen - I guess I just go on past experience which is not good either. Jail is better than being on the street - at least for me it is - I can sleep better - but I still think about it and wonder - what if he doesnt make it?