My 15yo son has stated he doesn't want to go back and forth from my house to my ex's house any longer. Some background: 2 months ago I discovered all my booze was gone, he admitted to drinking it all - Over the past year by himself after school. I never noticed a change in him. (I feel so dumb) Two weeks ago while at his dads house he went through his dads dresser drawers and took his Rx medications. Sleeping pills and anti-anxiety just to name two, we think there were more. Over 2 days he was taking these medications. In the 2nd day he was really wasted and I got a call to go to the school. I ended up taking him to Urgent care where doctors asked him how much he took and he couldn't give any clear answers. He was up and down emotionally being a total jerk to me and then to his dad. The following days were a nightmare of him lashing out and being disrespectful. Had to call police as he was getting out of control. His dad ended up taking him away (resort) for the weekend. And he gave his phone back. Now he wants to live 100% with his dad. (Not the first time he's said this apparently). I am devastated. His dad should have shut him down and said that's not happening but he didn't. His dad has a habit of binge drinking probably 1-4 times a month I am guessing. My son has seen his dad staggering drunk on multiple occasions. But it's not every day. Question; do I let him go live 100% with his dad? Or do I say no and live with the consequences of him being a jerk to me whenever he is at my house?