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I have read some posts here and will be responding to lend an ear and praying for you all! Ok, here is my background that I will try to sum up. I am 33 years old and a mom of two. I had a miscarriage with my first son when I was three months along and had to bury him. So , I really say I have "3" . So my daughter is 10 years old and my son just turned 5. My family is very religious so my grandfather suggested my daughter go to a private Catholic school since Pre-K, as well as my son. They have been spoiled by my grandfather and sometimes a little by myself and my father. Their father and I were never married and have been on and off ,up until the birth of our son. I have been around children and adults my whole life being my relitives,friends,military and the people my family worked with. Ok, now to the problem. My pregnancy with my son was rough and he was a month early, but was just over 6 pounds and went home the next day. He got up 4 times a night,went back to sleep rite away. He was wonderful until almost age two. He started getting more demanding and a little more tantrums. His speech was behind and started therapy.He also needed leg braces at age two for bowed legs which he got off at 3 years old. Potty trained during this year but also started not listening to us no matter how we tried to get him to do it.Games to pick up toys ,take medications,baths etc. He started throwing things,slamming/kicking doors,yelling,hitting us and his sister, and hitting his head once and a while on walls/doors. Age 4, he started back in Speech Thereapy, and started school all day. All year has done well at school but one time told the Principal not not look at him in a evil voice because he was mad. At home he has gotten worse,tantrums the same but more rage and violence. I now have holes in the walls cut and ripped down curtains,he colors on the walls,breaks cds,games,toys, still kicks walls/doors and hits head, has flipped over furnitre,bites his arms so hard he leaves bite marks and it bruises. Also has thrown stuff at the gerbil cage and went to push them off the table when he was mad. He doesnt care who he hurts and does not feel bad about it later.Tardy many days to school due to tantrums, runs in front of moving cars/parking lots/in stores. Lasts 30 minutes to 3 hours over anything. Not getting his way mainly.One day he was laughing,good mood and i was cleaning so I moved his cup over 2 inches and that set him off. Times he was happy I hug him or look at him and smile he gets mad. He now acts like this in front of his aunt who doesnt live with us and the last year or so acting like this in front of my friends and their children.I been asking for help for over a year and the Dr said discipline and gave me "tips" that didnt work. I finally got a Dr there to refer me to a Psychiatrist who we have seen 3 times.The first time he said Anxiety and possible ODD. Today he tested his "skills" and said he was bright... I knew that .. So he said "I beleive all thats wrong with him is social skills and you need to let him grow and I will finish up the report next week". I started to cry and told him he is socialized and "us let him grow up"? He has tiny tasks like pick up his toys( we help to) and i treat him as if he his a 5 year old,give him many independent task/games and so on as well as stuff to do with us. He knows the rules:no hitting/bitting breaking/throwing etc . I give timeouts ,take away toys ,privelages. When he is good I give him more appropriate privealges and things that he wants to do as well! So I do not know what to do, their father blames it all on me when he is not even a part time father. Sorry so long!Oh he just joined T-Ball mini Sports, we do go to Mc Donalds,PeterPiper,parks,plays with the kids on the block and so on!!! So, I just need someone that understands or even someone who wants to lend an ear! Thank you all.
Confused....
I have read some posts here and will be responding to lend an ear and praying for you all! Ok, here is my background that I will try to sum up. I am 33 years old and a mom of two. I had a miscarriage with my first son when I was three months along and had to bury him. So , I really say I have "3" . So my daughter is 10 years old and my son just turned 5. My family is very religious so my grandfather suggested my daughter go to a private Catholic school since Pre-K, as well as my son. They have been spoiled by my grandfather and sometimes a little by myself and my father. Their father and I were never married and have been on and off ,up until the birth of our son. I have been around children and adults my whole life being my relitives,friends,military and the people my family worked with. Ok, now to the problem. My pregnancy with my son was rough and he was a month early, but was just over 6 pounds and went home the next day. He got up 4 times a night,went back to sleep rite away. He was wonderful until almost age two. He started getting more demanding and a little more tantrums. His speech was behind and started therapy.He also needed leg braces at age two for bowed legs which he got off at 3 years old. Potty trained during this year but also started not listening to us no matter how we tried to get him to do it.Games to pick up toys ,take medications,baths etc. He started throwing things,slamming/kicking doors,yelling,hitting us and his sister, and hitting his head once and a while on walls/doors. Age 4, he started back in Speech Thereapy, and started school all day. All year has done well at school but one time told the Principal not not look at him in a evil voice because he was mad. At home he has gotten worse,tantrums the same but more rage and violence. I now have holes in the walls cut and ripped down curtains,he colors on the walls,breaks cds,games,toys, still kicks walls/doors and hits head, has flipped over furnitre,bites his arms so hard he leaves bite marks and it bruises. Also has thrown stuff at the gerbil cage and went to push them off the table when he was mad. He doesnt care who he hurts and does not feel bad about it later.Tardy many days to school due to tantrums, runs in front of moving cars/parking lots/in stores. Lasts 30 minutes to 3 hours over anything. Not getting his way mainly.One day he was laughing,good mood and i was cleaning so I moved his cup over 2 inches and that set him off. Times he was happy I hug him or look at him and smile he gets mad. He now acts like this in front of his aunt who doesnt live with us and the last year or so acting like this in front of my friends and their children.I been asking for help for over a year and the Dr said discipline and gave me "tips" that didnt work. I finally got a Dr there to refer me to a Psychiatrist who we have seen 3 times.The first time he said Anxiety and possible ODD. Today he tested his "skills" and said he was bright... I knew that .. So he said "I beleive all thats wrong with him is social skills and you need to let him grow and I will finish up the report next week". I started to cry and told him he is socialized and "us let him grow up"? He has tiny tasks like pick up his toys( we help to) and i treat him as if he his a 5 year old,give him many independent task/games and so on as well as stuff to do with us. He knows the rules:no hitting/bitting breaking/throwing etc . I give timeouts ,take away toys ,privelages. When he is good I give him more appropriate privealges and things that he wants to do as well! So I do not know what to do, their father blames it all on me when he is not even a part time father. Sorry so long!Oh he just joined T-Ball mini Sports, we do go to Mc Donalds,PeterPiper,parks,plays with the kids on the block and so on!!! So, I just need someone that understands or even someone who wants to lend an ear! Thank you all.
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