michelle_d
New Member
Well , hello everyone and I am new to this site. I am here because I have a son that is 25 yrs. old and has always been a very good person. He has always worked and taken care of his responsibilities and I do mean always. 6 years ago he met this girl and ended up getting her pregnant and his life became very bright for him they were meant for each other. Before the baby was born he had money in the bank and everything they would need for the baby. They took vacations, and just lived the life alot of people wish they could live. The baby, ( a boy ) was spoiled beyond belief. My son is a very good dad, he plays with his son, takes him places and is a very big part of his sons life. well 2 years ago his wife talked him to moving away , closer to her family and to do the right thing by his family they moved. Well a few months ago my husband , who my son is very close to , got sick and was in the hospital so my son flew in to be with him. About 30 minutes after he got here he called to let his wife know he made it ok and she informed him she was leaving him for a woman. My son flipped out. I could not help him or take his pain away. He was devastated. Well he is now drinking so much that I know it is killing him. He blacks out and goes into rages and tears things up and hurts his self. I dont know what to do , I can not afford rehab and he would not go anyway. I need to know how to get a judge to order him into rehab. He says he can not live without his son, he dont want to, they were best friends. He lost everything he built with this girl. He worked not her, he has been reduced to 2 bags of clothes. We have a big, very close family, but it is to the point everyone is afraid to be around him. I talked to him yesterday and he told me " mom I know what I am doing and I am sorry I am hurting everyone, I am just waiting for the morning I dont wake up" OMG I was devastated. My son is a good person with a good heart, what do I do for him.I do not condone, or finance his drinking or anything else he might be doing. I do not baby him, but my heart is breaking for him and I am so afraid I am going to lose him. He dont eat and wakes up drinking , after he throws up . He shakes when he does not have alcohol in his system , he is in self destruct mode. What do I do??? Someone please tell me something I can do. The family is there for him but at a distance because of his anger and blackouts. The support system is there , we all have confidence in him and know what he is capable of we just dont know how to get him there. I want to chain him to a bed, and hold him captive and be there for him thru detox but I am pretty sure thats against the law. I pray for him constantly, and worry about him every minute of everyday . I DONT WANT TO LOSE MY SON!!!! thanks for listening, any advice would be appreciated!!! Oh and I have called the cops and had him picked up twice already they let him out the next day even tho he goes in on suicide watch. Recently he wrecked his car driving drunk, thank God he did not hurt anyone and he was not hurt, but there were no other cars involved and cops were not called. So thats where I am with that story and its only getting worse. Please help if possible. thanks again
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