Jabber...you are making a lot of stereotypes, no?
I'm into teaching my kids independence...did it from an early age. They were doing laundry by the time they were tall enough to reach the washing machine. I also wanted them to pick out t heir own clothes, even if they didn't match...lol. I was very softhearted, but did not want my kids to be dependent on me forever. I know men who are the nurturers too. They were not my two husbands, but they do exist. Neither of my two husbands (they get along and when they're in the same room, I call them "All My Husbands" after that dumb soap opera...) anyhow, both were not nurturing in the same way I was, but not the way you are either. First hub just plain didn't think about their minds or state of them and still doesn't. Second one is outwardly macho and inwardly a pussycat. And his daughter hangs the sun and moon. His heart melts every time he looks at her. But I don't think he gives too much thought to the minds of his grown children either.
I think women in general worry more, but I also do not think all men are the same nor all women. I am a very logical thinker, which could be seen as man-like, but I'm not the only logical-thinking woman. I make decisions with my logic rather than my heart. I find it is more realistic and helpful. And I started pulling away from being mega-mommy when my kids were sixteen, to prepare them for eighteen and adulthood. If they needed me, sure, I'd be there emotionally. I will always be there emotionally. But I had expectations too...a part-time job, passing grades, help with car expenses and learning how to cook, which has really helped my bachelor sons!!!! I think in our family's case, this worked out well...all kids out, on their own, supporting themselves. Check, check, check!!
