Lil
Well-Known Member
So…here’s my 2₡ worth.
I’ve read a bit of Pink’s early posts, there weren’t many, on General Parenting. I’m quite sure she has at least in the past dealt with a difficult family situation. If currently she has no need of the serious discussion boards, there’s nothing wrong with that. I tend to lurk on the other forums these days, though I may step in to offer sympathy and advice from time to time. She didn’t say if her sister-in-law was in need of advice and support…if so…of course she should come.
I don’t necessarily agree with Copa that having the fun threads on here – and yes, there’s been a lot lately, in any way detracts from the other forums. I mean, the people who are hurting and in need of support are still posting on Substance Abuse and Parent’s Emeritus, etc., and aren’t going to stop because someone wants to talk about what kind of car we drive. The purpose of Substance Abuse forum is to help people who are dealing with kids with those issues. The purpose of the Watercooler is to chit-chat about things NOT related to our kids and their problems. Each has a purpose.
BUT, having said all that and I’m assuming the quotes are accurate, @Pink Elephant - it sounds like whatever was said to Copa crossed a big line! I'm frankly not sure what exactly got your granny panties in a wad, but Conduct Disorders as a whole IS for parents who have child-related issues. To post about those issues is not fixating or attention seeking or wallowing. It’s a cry for help and the very reason for this website’s existence. If posting about child-related events means we haven’t moved on – I guess the vast majority of us haven’t! We are here for the purpose of talking about our kids – not on this one particular Watercooler forum – but here all the same! It’s not as though Copa ever starts a thread, or even joins in much, on the Watercooler. Do you currently have kids you are raising who need special aid or counseling? Have you had the experience of spending years dealing with a child using drugs, or stealing from you, or getting arrested, or just running away and being homeless? Do you have family issues at all? If you have/do not, then you have no place judging. If you do – well you still have no place judging. We, by and large, are parents in a great deal of pain over our kids and we came here for the support forums FIRST. The Watercooler is a pleasant distraction and that is all.
@Copabanana , I’ve been wondering about you because you’ve posted so little lately. Like I said, I mostly lurk these days because when things go well I’m afraid to say much for fear of jinxing it, but I’ve noticed how little you’ve posted. Pain shared is pain lessened – we are here for you and your dear son. No – this site is NOT regressive. It is supportive. It is healing. It encourages growth and independence. It is a community of people lessening each other’s pain.
This site has meant the world to me. Jabber and I lived through some pretty tough times with our son and you all made it possible. If it weren't for the fun Watercooler threads, I wouldn't spend so much time here now that things are going okay. If it weren't for Substance Abuse and Parents Emeritus - well, I wouldn't be here at all. Those places were our refuge and our hope in our dark times.
I’ve read a bit of Pink’s early posts, there weren’t many, on General Parenting. I’m quite sure she has at least in the past dealt with a difficult family situation. If currently she has no need of the serious discussion boards, there’s nothing wrong with that. I tend to lurk on the other forums these days, though I may step in to offer sympathy and advice from time to time. She didn’t say if her sister-in-law was in need of advice and support…if so…of course she should come.
I don’t necessarily agree with Copa that having the fun threads on here – and yes, there’s been a lot lately, in any way detracts from the other forums. I mean, the people who are hurting and in need of support are still posting on Substance Abuse and Parent’s Emeritus, etc., and aren’t going to stop because someone wants to talk about what kind of car we drive. The purpose of Substance Abuse forum is to help people who are dealing with kids with those issues. The purpose of the Watercooler is to chit-chat about things NOT related to our kids and their problems. Each has a purpose.
BUT, having said all that and I’m assuming the quotes are accurate, @Pink Elephant - it sounds like whatever was said to Copa crossed a big line! I'm frankly not sure what exactly got your granny panties in a wad, but Conduct Disorders as a whole IS for parents who have child-related issues. To post about those issues is not fixating or attention seeking or wallowing. It’s a cry for help and the very reason for this website’s existence. If posting about child-related events means we haven’t moved on – I guess the vast majority of us haven’t! We are here for the purpose of talking about our kids – not on this one particular Watercooler forum – but here all the same! It’s not as though Copa ever starts a thread, or even joins in much, on the Watercooler. Do you currently have kids you are raising who need special aid or counseling? Have you had the experience of spending years dealing with a child using drugs, or stealing from you, or getting arrested, or just running away and being homeless? Do you have family issues at all? If you have/do not, then you have no place judging. If you do – well you still have no place judging. We, by and large, are parents in a great deal of pain over our kids and we came here for the support forums FIRST. The Watercooler is a pleasant distraction and that is all.
@Copabanana , I’ve been wondering about you because you’ve posted so little lately. Like I said, I mostly lurk these days because when things go well I’m afraid to say much for fear of jinxing it, but I’ve noticed how little you’ve posted. Pain shared is pain lessened – we are here for you and your dear son. No – this site is NOT regressive. It is supportive. It is healing. It encourages growth and independence. It is a community of people lessening each other’s pain.
This site has meant the world to me. Jabber and I lived through some pretty tough times with our son and you all made it possible. If it weren't for the fun Watercooler threads, I wouldn't spend so much time here now that things are going okay. If it weren't for Substance Abuse and Parents Emeritus - well, I wouldn't be here at all. Those places were our refuge and our hope in our dark times.