ColleenB
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Son has admitted he is still dealing. He skipped classes yesterday because he was out all night, so I just finally got really angry and demanded he be honest with us.
He is saying that his supplier is demanding 2000, due to loses from before. According to son, he let them go until son said he needs to stop dealing, and is making it hard for him to stop. He told us he is just trying to pay off his debt and that it should only take a month.
Of course we said that is not an option, he can't live here and deal. He said he would move out for a while. I don't want this to be an option for him. Knowing he is dealing is killing me, I can't live with that. I pushed that we pay the debt, it is a loan and we expect him to pay us back. I can't live with knowing I didn't do everything possible to get him out of this.
I know this may be a mistake. I accept the risk. The alternative is to have him at risk of arrest or worse.
I know there are those who don't agree with this, I get it. I really do. I just also know I have to try and get him away from this dangerous life.
I have contacted a rehab, he is adamant that he finish his term, which is only a few more weeks. I will continue to push treatment. I realize he needs help, and not just a bail out.
I am taking it a day at a time. I don't know what will happen.
To make matters more stressful my father, who has mental illness and a disability, needs money.... Again. My sister lives near him and has the primary care of him, but I can't let her bear the burden alone. She has a young family and works too. We will find a way to send them money too.
I took today as a sick day. I needed a day to regroup, as I am sick, and am feeling worn out.
We did take away sons car, and have been very clear about his dealing. It is ending , it has too. We can monitor his bank account (he doesn't know this) so we can see the e transfers.
I worry about how we are going to go forward. He says he isn't using, and it doesn't seem like he is. But I honestly don't trust much of what he says.
Surprisingly, even with the news he still owes money, I actually feel he is st least telling us some truth, perhaps not all of it... But it's something.
Taking it a minute at a time.
He is saying that his supplier is demanding 2000, due to loses from before. According to son, he let them go until son said he needs to stop dealing, and is making it hard for him to stop. He told us he is just trying to pay off his debt and that it should only take a month.
Of course we said that is not an option, he can't live here and deal. He said he would move out for a while. I don't want this to be an option for him. Knowing he is dealing is killing me, I can't live with that. I pushed that we pay the debt, it is a loan and we expect him to pay us back. I can't live with knowing I didn't do everything possible to get him out of this.
I know this may be a mistake. I accept the risk. The alternative is to have him at risk of arrest or worse.
I know there are those who don't agree with this, I get it. I really do. I just also know I have to try and get him away from this dangerous life.
I have contacted a rehab, he is adamant that he finish his term, which is only a few more weeks. I will continue to push treatment. I realize he needs help, and not just a bail out.
I am taking it a day at a time. I don't know what will happen.
To make matters more stressful my father, who has mental illness and a disability, needs money.... Again. My sister lives near him and has the primary care of him, but I can't let her bear the burden alone. She has a young family and works too. We will find a way to send them money too.
I took today as a sick day. I needed a day to regroup, as I am sick, and am feeling worn out.
We did take away sons car, and have been very clear about his dealing. It is ending , it has too. We can monitor his bank account (he doesn't know this) so we can see the e transfers.
I worry about how we are going to go forward. He says he isn't using, and it doesn't seem like he is. But I honestly don't trust much of what he says.
Surprisingly, even with the news he still owes money, I actually feel he is st least telling us some truth, perhaps not all of it... But it's something.
Taking it a minute at a time.