I have overloaded myself with information about borderline personality disorder. I wonder if it is really as hopeless as it seems? Surely if someone suffering from this disorder sees a good psychotherapist they will eventually show their true self and can be helped? Having said that I think that I too come from a borderline family or origin. I wish I knew about this disorder earlier in my life, so I could help my Mum and indeed my daughter who showed these symptoms as a teenager. I did try to help my daughter but she would refuse to go counselling, saying that it was me that was "mad". I begged her Dad to help me get her help, but he couldn't be bothered as he was too busy with his new life and would say that she was being a typical teenager. But my instinct told me it was more, and I could see a similarity with my own Mums behaviour, which scared me. I feel helpless at times. I too have suffered with anxiety at different times in my life, but I always try to overcome it for the good of others around me. I also believe that I deserve some happiness in my life, as I have always put others first. I am now 51 and I have a full life, but the sadness about my daughter is impeding me. I just keep reminding myself the wise words Detach, detach, detach. I am so sorry if I go on a bit too much about this. Thanks for listening to all of you.I like that - Borderline family of origin Although for me that was not my family - they had their issues but not that. My grandmother on my mom's side, she was the narcissistic - sociopath my daughter inherited her DNA from.