Little background
been seperated and now divorced for almost 3 years,my daughter left my house when the incident occurred, in a huff and moved in with her mother.
She left when she heard you being intimate with your new lady?
If so, in my opinion you have a choice to make. More than that, you really need to be discreet and make sure you are far away from your girls, in a way other part of the house, and don't make a lot of noise, that is, if you are really dying to have your girls live with you again. This may REALLY bother them.
It was one thing for me to have to hear my parents doing sex, as I did, growing up. But it took me quite a while to accept them being apart and if I had heard any sex noises even at age 24, as I said before, between my parent or somebody who I considered an intruder, I would have been disgusted and may have also moved out. Now I was not
every 20 year old girl. And maybe I should have gotten over it. But it bothered and hurt me to see my parents with other partners, let alone hearing them having sex (which i didn't). And if they had told me to get over it, I just would have avoided them more.
I am not quite sure if this is why your first girl left. Or your second one. It was not clear. But I understand your daughter's point of view if that was why. Not saying your daughters were right or wrong, but I understand. My parents were married to each other only and for a long time and I was not used to seeing them with other people. And if I had to see them with other people, I wanted them to leave even the kissing away from me, and they did. Immature, perhaps, but I know I'm not the only one who was a grown child who resented the other woman and the other man and I did avoid seeing both SO's. I saw my parents WITHOUT their new honeys...it was my decision and my parents respected that. The honeys stayed away from me...I was not ready for them.
That doesn't mean you should toss your SO away, but maybe this is the problem your daughter has...and I understand it because I felt the same. Perhaps you should try to have a relationship with your daughters leaving SO out of it for now? Try to meet at coffee shops alone and not discuss SO? I didn't want my parents to talk about their new loves. It made me angry inside and queasy. So we avoided the topic and I never did get to know either ones SO well. Worked out best that way, at least for our family. I never wanted to even know they had sex lives...lol.