lovemysons
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Well, the other night when daughter in law and the grandbabies came over daughter in law wanted young difficult child to be involved with taking care of the kids/spending time with them. Young difficult child said he was tired from work and wanted his time to relax.
Apparentely while smoking cigarettes in the garage...They got into an arguement. daughter in law told young difficult child awhile back that she had cheated on him last year (before he went to prison) and that this man would have put her and the kids needs before his own and taken care of them.
Young difficult child told me last night that he wants a divorce. I told him that he is a man now and his problems were his to solve. He can't "get over" what she has done. Roll eyes...Nevermind the fact that he drank and drugged pretty much the past 5 yrs of their married life and was "absent" as far as being a responsible man and caring for his beautiful little family.
husband and I have talked...We think that young difficult child is afraid. He is now "dry" "sober" whatever you want to call it...and dealing with the reality of the situation. I think it is overwhelming to him to realise that this family of 5 needs him. He wants to go back to the days of "me me me" ya know.
On a positive note...He has been going to work everyday but Sunday's since he was released from Prison.
He has also gone to 2 Overcomer meetings a week, required orientations, parole office visits etc.
I am tired from being his Taxi...but I will muster the strength to run him all over H and creation if it means he stays out of Prison. This better pay off...I am giving it my all. Just hope that young difficult child will/can give it his.
Wishing he would "Man Up" and be there for his children at least. I did raise my children to know the empty hole inside a child's heart when they don't feel worthy of being loved well by a parent...when they don't have a relationship with a parent because of absence or neglect...as I did not have a relationship with my bio-dad due to his Alcoholism and absence in my life. Didn't know him/meet him til I was 17. It had a profound effect on my self worth. I do not want my grandchildren to internalise young difficult child's lacktherein. It is the deepest sadness I ever experienced...well, aside from my son's drug/alcohol related problems.
LMS
Apparentely while smoking cigarettes in the garage...They got into an arguement. daughter in law told young difficult child awhile back that she had cheated on him last year (before he went to prison) and that this man would have put her and the kids needs before his own and taken care of them.
Young difficult child told me last night that he wants a divorce. I told him that he is a man now and his problems were his to solve. He can't "get over" what she has done. Roll eyes...Nevermind the fact that he drank and drugged pretty much the past 5 yrs of their married life and was "absent" as far as being a responsible man and caring for his beautiful little family.
husband and I have talked...We think that young difficult child is afraid. He is now "dry" "sober" whatever you want to call it...and dealing with the reality of the situation. I think it is overwhelming to him to realise that this family of 5 needs him. He wants to go back to the days of "me me me" ya know.
On a positive note...He has been going to work everyday but Sunday's since he was released from Prison.
He has also gone to 2 Overcomer meetings a week, required orientations, parole office visits etc.
I am tired from being his Taxi...but I will muster the strength to run him all over H and creation if it means he stays out of Prison. This better pay off...I am giving it my all. Just hope that young difficult child will/can give it his.
Wishing he would "Man Up" and be there for his children at least. I did raise my children to know the empty hole inside a child's heart when they don't feel worthy of being loved well by a parent...when they don't have a relationship with a parent because of absence or neglect...as I did not have a relationship with my bio-dad due to his Alcoholism and absence in my life. Didn't know him/meet him til I was 17. It had a profound effect on my self worth. I do not want my grandchildren to internalise young difficult child's lacktherein. It is the deepest sadness I ever experienced...well, aside from my son's drug/alcohol related problems.
LMS