Received a text from my son... said he wants to come home to visit in a few months. I seriously wanted to throw up. Not sure how to tell him that we don't want him home. I still haven't told him the pet he loved died a few weeks ago because he has no support around him. I guess I have to be strong and just say "The last time you were home you were miserable and wanted to fly back within 10 hours of being home. The four days you were home were horrible. Unless you show us that you are working a program and are sober we don't want you to visit." Sounds like an excuse to go get wasted to me after I tell him... We had not known at that time he had went back to heavy drinking after he was off of probation late in 2017. That was why he was miserable because he was having withdrawals. We had no clue until a few weeks later when we found out he had been drinking heavily right up to coming home for those 4 days. Don't know when to break the news about the pet either.