I do that too. lots of times I have to go back in my head or his texts to see what he actually said without me reading between the lines. Example- he told me he had to buy new work boots and he will be short for his car payment. What I read " will you make my car payment' I made the mistake of replying, "I'm not making your car payment" his reply, "wth i didn't ask you to." no he didn't but that's what i assume he wants. He knows I will feel bad, he needs the car to go to work. he is living paycheck to paycheck. Thank God I don't have your medication dilemma thrown in too! There are so many good ideas (for him) in this thread. I hope he will comply--at least a little. Why don't we ever turn the manipulation around on them? Ask. "How can you do this to me? You make me so sad, I can't sleep I worry so much. you are going to put me in an early grave." I know my son's answer, "So don't worry. I'm not your problem."