Hi Copa . i can feel the pain and the panic in your posts. I think your own line about his indifference says it all. You are the one who is worried not him. I don't know if he is consciously using this to manipulate or punish you or he is showing signs of depression which leads to his indifference. I believe you are going to reach a point soon where your health is effected and that wont help him or you. Are you taking care of YOUR health? I admire the way you fight for your son and wish i knew of a program that would help. Ultimately he needs to be a part of the solution. You will be of help to no one if your health fails. I know what you mean about keeping a place clean my son does the same which while i am not the worlds best housekeeper the level he accepts drives me nuts.