I had one after I had difficult child. difficult child was still just a little toddler and I got pregnant. My boyfriend and I were having all sorts of problems and I knew right away I couldn't have another child. I tried to get him involved with the decision, but he refused to believe it was his. Long story, but yeah, I was irresponsible in getting pregnant but I knew what the right decision was. I was already a single mom. No way could I handle another child at that time. I have never regretted that decision. Never.
difficult child has always made it clear that if something crazy were to happen (she doesn't have sex - with anyone - hardly any boyfriends in her life, either), she would terminate. She knows herself that she couldn't take care of another human being. As far as I know, she abstains so there is really no chance of it happening.
Nancy, my thoughts and prayers are with you and difficult child.....(((HUGS)))