toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Hi all,
Well overall I have had a very fun and nice weekend and Mothers day. My difficult child did call me today to wish me a happy Mothers day. It was the first time I have talked to him since he went into treatment almost 2 weeks ago, and probably the first time in a long time he has called without asking for something! He said he was good, doesn't like some of the rules but in many ways it is a better treatment place than some others, he likes his roommates, it is better than being on the streets, doesn't like his therapist all that much has not found staff he feels really comfortable with..... so a mixed bag.
So afterwards I felt kind of disappointed. Then it hit me that I still have this totally unrealistic ridiculous hope that somehow at some point a switch is going to flip and he is going to have this epiphany and change his life. Just like that!!! I should know better than that, really I should. Change happens slowly and if a switch did flip and he did a complete turnaround overnight then I should really worry!!
The fact that he is in the program and is not majorly complaining is huge really... and that in fact he sees some positive things is good. The fact that it feels better than being on the street is good... and hey he called me on his own on Mothers day!!! His timing was good becuase he called right after I turned my phone on as we were leaving a show we had gone to see... but before we got to the restaurant for dinner. I had kind of thought he would call at a time when I would miss it. So I am glad about that.
So anyway thats where we are at.
Happy Mothers day to all of you wonderful moms who have been wonderfully supporitve to me on this journey.
TL
Well overall I have had a very fun and nice weekend and Mothers day. My difficult child did call me today to wish me a happy Mothers day. It was the first time I have talked to him since he went into treatment almost 2 weeks ago, and probably the first time in a long time he has called without asking for something! He said he was good, doesn't like some of the rules but in many ways it is a better treatment place than some others, he likes his roommates, it is better than being on the streets, doesn't like his therapist all that much has not found staff he feels really comfortable with..... so a mixed bag.
So afterwards I felt kind of disappointed. Then it hit me that I still have this totally unrealistic ridiculous hope that somehow at some point a switch is going to flip and he is going to have this epiphany and change his life. Just like that!!! I should know better than that, really I should. Change happens slowly and if a switch did flip and he did a complete turnaround overnight then I should really worry!!
The fact that he is in the program and is not majorly complaining is huge really... and that in fact he sees some positive things is good. The fact that it feels better than being on the street is good... and hey he called me on his own on Mothers day!!! His timing was good becuase he called right after I turned my phone on as we were leaving a show we had gone to see... but before we got to the restaurant for dinner. I had kind of thought he would call at a time when I would miss it. So I am glad about that.
So anyway thats where we are at.
Happy Mothers day to all of you wonderful moms who have been wonderfully supporitve to me on this journey.
TL