Not everyone will agree with me, but the phrase "hit rock bottom" is more appropriate for people with addictions. Mental illness means that what works for most people, doesn't work. Sometimes, we do things for our kids, for US. And that is OK, too, as long as we can live with the outcome. If you know that a small amount of money in his account will be used appropriately (i.e. food), AND seeing the transactions go through helps YOU cope with the situation, then I see nothing wrong with it. Enabling is where we do things for our kids and resent it. This doesn't sound like enabling either.