buddy
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Paradoxically, all that did (both with DS and with the ex) is reinforce that I made the right decision. Nobody but an abuser belittles you for refusing to take abuse.
I left a message with a friend to call me, because the shock is wearing off and the sadness and freaking out is setting in.
sounds like you have great insight along with natural human feelings. so great you can see the manipulation those comments really are. i think most of us with difficult child's in our lives learn to read the message beneath the message really well. it is hard to get others to read those messages sometimes, but as long as we can at least it reduces some of the craziness.
you did the right thing. my son has the same instinct. when i cut his pockets so he couldn't bring yucky stuff home in them he said he was going to ut up all my clothes. He didn't because I reminded him of what would happen if he did. More delay of things he is desperate to do like other kids his age. He has to show maturity before I will let him have a phone etc. Very hard to stick to these plans when they are emotionally blackmailing us! You did great. No, not awful to hope cops are called. It is his choice and he needs to see it is not you that is causing his issues (i suspect he knows that but maybe the husband abuse has brainwashed him too) and if society gives consequences he may see that.