lovemysons
Well-Known Member
Well, as some of you may remember, husband and I were to ask young difficult child to move out as of this past Monday...that would have been 6 weeks notice.
But the waters got alittle muddied up 2 weeks ago and young difficult child and his wife began looking at rental homes and realized they had not even enough money to put down a deposit. It was at that point that we all talked and decided that 6 more weeks with husband saving money for them would be the plan.
Now, young difficult child is using again. The signs are all there: Needing money back that he just had saved for him, Lying to his wife about how much money was saved, early sleeping/or up in the middle of the night, going to wife's mom's house the other night and slurring words/having trouble eating, stealing cigarettes from me, stealing Trazadone from me, asking to borrow money from his sister, etc.
So yesterday I told him he has til next Friday to move out...that is 2 paychecks from now.
He of course wanted to know "who" has been saying that he is using. He wanted a hug, and to tell me he loves me...no doubt trying to pull at my heart strings. But I just can't do it anymore.
I told husband last night that next Friday he must just tell me to stand behind him as we escort our son out of our home. I don't want to get in the way.
When Young difficult child was released from prison in December and came home to live with us, we provided free room and board, a job, his family over, a Truck we bought for him (after allowing him to use my vehicle for 2 months), etc....
And he has nothing to show for it. Nothing.
He is making $13 an hour working for his brother. I hope he can make it. If he cannot, I can give him a list of area shelters/food banks etc. but that is all.
I am finally tired of supporting the drugs he puts first in his life...instead of his beautiful family. They deserve so much more and the waiting must come to end...for all of us.
I know I will be in tears when young difficult child is lead out the door...What will happen to him? Will he do something stupid and go back to prison? Will he try to commit suicide?
Or...is it possible that he may look for "real" help and get it on his own?
The unknown has been stirring around lately...with the Biopsy and now young difficult child's exit.
I am so glad you all understand my feelings and fears and will be with me through this transition.
I know in my heart we have done all we can for young difficult child. I pray he is truly a survivor. I pray he will land on his feet and start being the man he was meant to be for his family's sake.
I need to be strong.
LMS
But the waters got alittle muddied up 2 weeks ago and young difficult child and his wife began looking at rental homes and realized they had not even enough money to put down a deposit. It was at that point that we all talked and decided that 6 more weeks with husband saving money for them would be the plan.
Now, young difficult child is using again. The signs are all there: Needing money back that he just had saved for him, Lying to his wife about how much money was saved, early sleeping/or up in the middle of the night, going to wife's mom's house the other night and slurring words/having trouble eating, stealing cigarettes from me, stealing Trazadone from me, asking to borrow money from his sister, etc.
So yesterday I told him he has til next Friday to move out...that is 2 paychecks from now.
He of course wanted to know "who" has been saying that he is using. He wanted a hug, and to tell me he loves me...no doubt trying to pull at my heart strings. But I just can't do it anymore.
I told husband last night that next Friday he must just tell me to stand behind him as we escort our son out of our home. I don't want to get in the way.
When Young difficult child was released from prison in December and came home to live with us, we provided free room and board, a job, his family over, a Truck we bought for him (after allowing him to use my vehicle for 2 months), etc....
And he has nothing to show for it. Nothing.
He is making $13 an hour working for his brother. I hope he can make it. If he cannot, I can give him a list of area shelters/food banks etc. but that is all.
I am finally tired of supporting the drugs he puts first in his life...instead of his beautiful family. They deserve so much more and the waiting must come to end...for all of us.
I know I will be in tears when young difficult child is lead out the door...What will happen to him? Will he do something stupid and go back to prison? Will he try to commit suicide?
Or...is it possible that he may look for "real" help and get it on his own?
The unknown has been stirring around lately...with the Biopsy and now young difficult child's exit.
I am so glad you all understand my feelings and fears and will be with me through this transition.
I know in my heart we have done all we can for young difficult child. I pray he is truly a survivor. I pray he will land on his feet and start being the man he was meant to be for his family's sake.
I need to be strong.
LMS