Jabberwockey
Well-Known Member
Just looked back. I misread it. Sorry.
Oh lil, it's so very hard to watch the fall, but sometimes it's the fall that puts them back up
I was thinking this very same thing, Lil, my small house is in a shambles as we rearrange rooms again, for the umpteenth time, but this time , for our easy child. She is 21, and rents here are upwards of 1500 for a half decent place in a half decent area. So we will help her.During one of my melt-downs last night (yeah...there've been a few) I said to Jabber, "It kills me that we have to be this way because it's HIM. If he were anyone else...if he wasn't the person he's been, we'd just help. Other people have their kid move in with them and save his money until he's on his feet. Other people can give their kids cars and buy their kids food and not have to worry that they'll just expect more and take advantage. It's not fair."
I think this is a good thing for all of you.Well, we decided to pay the bill this month. ONLY this month. This is it. We've told him this ends the financial help. No more buying weeks worth of groceries. No bills. He has until the next bill comes to figure this out.
Me, too Lil, but I am also tired of being exhausted......It is a rough journey we are all on. Got to do what we have to, to process all of this.I'm exhausted.
He is learning that the "stoners" he chooses for friends aren't really friends he can count on to follow through.
JMO, but maybe the less you mention his moocher friends, the MORE, he has to think about what is happening, and do something about it.
Good.Aaaand...she's gone.
He has Lil and Jabber values.
He seems to have mostly stopped any serious stoner activity, which may re-emerge with the friend here, if any money starts coming in.