Albatross
Well-Known Member
It could have escalated much more than it did. I think you handled it well.
I remember my aunt once broke the bathroom door open to confirm her suspicions that my cousin was smoking pot. Aunt wanted the bag of pot so she could call the police, cousin was wrestling it away from aunt, aunt slipped and hit her head on the counter. (Then cousin calmly flushed pot.)
Of course, his blocking you and making contact is a BIG concern, but I am not sure I would have involved the police, given there was not intentional contact. That ramps things up in myriad ways that you may not want.
I am sorry, but I don't remember and don't see a mention of spouse in your signature. Was Mr. Percy home during the altercation?
Removing locks from the bathroom doors was a natural consequence of him smoking pot in your house and a way of taking your power back. I think the bedroom door is appropriate as well.
But honestly, Percy, what are your plans when he turns 18? Will you be evicting him?
Any steps you take to show your son who's boss are going to cause things to escalate, given his obvious disrespect of your authority.
I guess I am wondering if it's worth it or whether you might be better off just continuing to throw out his pot and paraphernalia and stand your ground, and just keep on counting the days.
BUT...if there is another instance of physical contact like what he displayed last night, I would definitely involve the police and take steps to have him removed from my home.
Aside from the physical side of it, not rising to the bait of his insults was really an amazing feat, in my opinion. You didn't allow him to deflect and stayed focused on the issue at hand and maintained your parental stance calmly. You are a better person than me, that's for sure!
No, it's not a miracle turnaround but you weren't expecting that. You just want him to stop smoking pot in the house, right?
Not my son so it is easy for me to say, but I think I would be seriously considering getting my ducks in a row for his 18th birthday.
I remember my aunt once broke the bathroom door open to confirm her suspicions that my cousin was smoking pot. Aunt wanted the bag of pot so she could call the police, cousin was wrestling it away from aunt, aunt slipped and hit her head on the counter. (Then cousin calmly flushed pot.)
Of course, his blocking you and making contact is a BIG concern, but I am not sure I would have involved the police, given there was not intentional contact. That ramps things up in myriad ways that you may not want.
I am sorry, but I don't remember and don't see a mention of spouse in your signature. Was Mr. Percy home during the altercation?
Removing locks from the bathroom doors was a natural consequence of him smoking pot in your house and a way of taking your power back. I think the bedroom door is appropriate as well.
But honestly, Percy, what are your plans when he turns 18? Will you be evicting him?
Any steps you take to show your son who's boss are going to cause things to escalate, given his obvious disrespect of your authority.
I guess I am wondering if it's worth it or whether you might be better off just continuing to throw out his pot and paraphernalia and stand your ground, and just keep on counting the days.
BUT...if there is another instance of physical contact like what he displayed last night, I would definitely involve the police and take steps to have him removed from my home.
Aside from the physical side of it, not rising to the bait of his insults was really an amazing feat, in my opinion. You didn't allow him to deflect and stayed focused on the issue at hand and maintained your parental stance calmly. You are a better person than me, that's for sure!
No, it's not a miracle turnaround but you weren't expecting that. You just want him to stop smoking pot in the house, right?
Not my son so it is easy for me to say, but I think I would be seriously considering getting my ducks in a row for his 18th birthday.