AddictionSucks123
New Member
Hi,
My adult son is an alcohol addict and also dabbles with other drugs here and there. He was on meth for two months, then stopped and then relapsed several times. He then also found cocaine and did that as well as pot and alcohol.
He went to rehab during the xmas holidays but then got discharged as he was threatening staff and other clients. We agreed to let him back in the house if he followed specific house rules, including random drug testing, going to AA/NA, and curfew to name a few. He has drank 5 times in the span of 1 month and refused to be drug tested so we told him to leave. He said we never look at his strides, he is currently employed after being let go, fired beginning of December for going into work late everyday or calling out sick multiple times.
He says we treat him like a criminal, a worthless person, when he is doing what he needs to do. What we see is him sliding back into using alcohol more frequently, using cocaine. He says he already beats himself up and it doesn't help when we shove it in his face to talk about again and again. We asked him if he wants external assistance, like counseling, or outpatient treatment and he says no to all of it. He just wants to live at home and not get pestered about his addiction.
My family members who have beat addiction, keeps telling me to just kick him out. He is 24. He makes decent wages. He loves being home and he recognizes he is an addict but hates the stigma and the way he thinks we look at him or treat him.
I have told him, the house rules are for us and our sanity, not him. At this point, I don't know if I need to be a hard liner or just watch and see..... That's what happened last time, when he spiraled out of control and ended up in Rehab to detox (he didn't want to be there really).
My adult son is an alcohol addict and also dabbles with other drugs here and there. He was on meth for two months, then stopped and then relapsed several times. He then also found cocaine and did that as well as pot and alcohol.
He went to rehab during the xmas holidays but then got discharged as he was threatening staff and other clients. We agreed to let him back in the house if he followed specific house rules, including random drug testing, going to AA/NA, and curfew to name a few. He has drank 5 times in the span of 1 month and refused to be drug tested so we told him to leave. He said we never look at his strides, he is currently employed after being let go, fired beginning of December for going into work late everyday or calling out sick multiple times.
He says we treat him like a criminal, a worthless person, when he is doing what he needs to do. What we see is him sliding back into using alcohol more frequently, using cocaine. He says he already beats himself up and it doesn't help when we shove it in his face to talk about again and again. We asked him if he wants external assistance, like counseling, or outpatient treatment and he says no to all of it. He just wants to live at home and not get pestered about his addiction.
My family members who have beat addiction, keeps telling me to just kick him out. He is 24. He makes decent wages. He loves being home and he recognizes he is an addict but hates the stigma and the way he thinks we look at him or treat him.
I have told him, the house rules are for us and our sanity, not him. At this point, I don't know if I need to be a hard liner or just watch and see..... That's what happened last time, when he spiraled out of control and ended up in Rehab to detox (he didn't want to be there really).