Copa, You know we are all here for you. Do you have PTSD due tot he fact that J doesn't follow through on things and because he makes you stress? I don't remember himbeing physical or threatening towards you. Just not following any directives but pretending he was. He is being a piss by saying.."mom? thanks, good-bye" he wanted you to feel bad and of course you did. because then you think.."on no I sent those texts, was he really following through and I just thought he wasn't..but he was. and oh no.. I hurt his feelings, he is fragile, I don't want to hurt his feelings?" HA! he just pulled your heartstrings--master of manipulation, I think he is friends with my son. Follow a rule I have: NEVER send a text to J until 30 minutes has passed. then re-read it and see if you still want to send it or maybe should re-word it. when i don't answer Ben within 10 minutes he texts me again and again, then he calls. That is if (he thinks) it is important. Yet if I text him and he doesn't respond it could be 2 hours before he responds--they are $hits. I used to send a sting of texts thinking I could prompt a response. NOPE. I made a new rule for myself..if I want Ben to respond to a text, the 1st text I send is "Ben?" then I wait. that way he doesn't know what I want and if his phone is available, charged, he isn't busy, he will text back right away. If I don't hear back right away when I only send "Ben?" i know he isn't available. He hasn't caught onto my new ploy ..yet. Manipulators. But I really, truly, do think J is scared. He doesn't realize lif will be easier with answers. That maybe even though he is smart, he functions in a different way. Hugs, Prayers, Warm thoughts.