Yes and no. You know my thoughts on the matter honey. I agree with GN, I think that he is manipulating you. My thoughts on this is that if he threatens suicide, we react accordingly. When July 1st comes, we stick to the plan and kick him out. If we pay July's rent for him, other issues will come up. He's still unemployed so wont have food, wont have cigarettes (yeah, I know), wont have anything but what we give him.
IF, IF, he manages to get even part time work, he might be able to pay the rent but will be calling us constantly about food, cigarettes, rides, etc... I'm sorry honey but I see no reason to help someone who doesn't want help, they want to be coddled and taken care of. Doesn't mean I wont discuss options with you, just doubt seriously that they will help.
He's lived with us rent free for two and a half months and hasn't done anything to help himself. What good will buying another month do?
I'd almost rather he stayed with us instead of paying the rent for him. Almost. Haven't decided yet if its worth $400 to have him out of the house for a bit.
Aw thank you! If you kept reading after this, you probably saw what we decided. He was given 3 choices, 1. Stay and find work and a number of other conditions. 2. IF he had a job by 7/5, we'd pay the $400. 3. There's the door. When he didn't have a job by 7/1 he took option 1 and, as it turned out, he got a job 7/4. But by then he'd decided that option 1 was best.I am crying for you. Does his counselors agree he should live alone? My son wouldn't know a true friend if tripped over one.
I'd pay 400....hello, were paying 1250.00...He's safe, sober and praying he will grow. I am right now feel like I'm dying inside a bit everyday though.....I know things could be worse but tired.....
Praying for your heart.
I've missed a few days, and came on to catch up and just look at this wonderful news! I am very happy for all of you. You never know, Lil. If he gets a taste of working a job he likes and where they like him, money, stability...Lil, this part could be over. With all my heart, that is my prayer for you and Jabber.Plusses: He LOVES his new job. Every day he says he loves it. Mostly because it's the easiest job he's ever had. He caught on very quickly and thinks the managers are pleased with him. He's getting 30+ hours per week, a gross of around $1,000 per month on a 4-week month, which is more than he's ever earned too. So far so good. And he's FINALLY made arrangements to start doing his community service. I haven't made any therapy appointments, because I don't want to push too hard and have him melt down and quit work or community service.