toreapartwomanoftwo
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Here is my story:
We moved to this area about 6 months ago, it is a small town with top rated schools, my 16 year old difficult child was devastated, he got very depressed for a while, but soon he started making friends. Well... about a few days before spring break, he started going out too much and I did not know where he was and he would mention some other friends that I didn't know, one day he admited to me that he was using marijuana WHAT?? and he promise that he will not do it again.
difficult child was acting very different, I notice right away he was not himself. He was skipping classes at school. I grounded him taking everything from his room even the door, but nothing work, he will leave anyways everytime he wanted and came back whenever he wanted. My husband (difficult child stepfather just would look from a corner). When my husband started getting involved difficult child hated him disrespecting him spat on him, throw a bucket of water on his bed; and finally husband couldn't handle it and moved out after almost 15 years of marriage leaving me alone to deal with the destructive behavior of difficult child.
One day my difficult child took my brand new car in the middle of the night and crashed it against a parked car. The next morning, the police came charging him with theft, driving without a license and hit and run. He was put in detention for one night. But that is not all, my difficult child has been very angry, he doesn't take no for an answer and if I don't let him get his way, he starts screaming and destroying everything on his path (we have a brand new house with holes on the walls and a woodfloor with holes, scratches and rips now). One day I had to call the police because he was braking everything, and my difficult child got arrested and he was kept in Juvenile hall for 3 days and was put in house arrest.
Well just yesterday difficult child found a scorpion in his room and we had to call husband to get it (difficult child hates husband) while difficult child and I were out husband came and look for the scorpion and took this out of the house but left the bed out of place. Well when difficult child saw his bed out of place started screaming at the top of his lungs and swering at my husband (husband was already gone) and destroying everything on his path, went to the bathrooms and broke the big mirrors that are over the sinks. This time I did not call the police, difficult child was warn that he will be in juvenile hall for a long time if he keeps breaking the law.
difficult child was ordered to drug testing and the results have been negative for more than a month now, then... why is he so violent? what's wrong with his mind? the psycology says that he is just missbehaving, that there is nothing wrong with him.
Is there something good about my life? I lost my husband, my child is wasting his life and he does not care about anything, he is failing all his classes he is very behind in credits, husband and I are stuck with 2 houses because of the real state market and the money is very tight. I sure don't want to exist, when is going to end this nightmare? Sorry about the long post
We moved to this area about 6 months ago, it is a small town with top rated schools, my 16 year old difficult child was devastated, he got very depressed for a while, but soon he started making friends. Well... about a few days before spring break, he started going out too much and I did not know where he was and he would mention some other friends that I didn't know, one day he admited to me that he was using marijuana WHAT?? and he promise that he will not do it again.
difficult child was acting very different, I notice right away he was not himself. He was skipping classes at school. I grounded him taking everything from his room even the door, but nothing work, he will leave anyways everytime he wanted and came back whenever he wanted. My husband (difficult child stepfather just would look from a corner). When my husband started getting involved difficult child hated him disrespecting him spat on him, throw a bucket of water on his bed; and finally husband couldn't handle it and moved out after almost 15 years of marriage leaving me alone to deal with the destructive behavior of difficult child.
One day my difficult child took my brand new car in the middle of the night and crashed it against a parked car. The next morning, the police came charging him with theft, driving without a license and hit and run. He was put in detention for one night. But that is not all, my difficult child has been very angry, he doesn't take no for an answer and if I don't let him get his way, he starts screaming and destroying everything on his path (we have a brand new house with holes on the walls and a woodfloor with holes, scratches and rips now). One day I had to call the police because he was braking everything, and my difficult child got arrested and he was kept in Juvenile hall for 3 days and was put in house arrest.
Well just yesterday difficult child found a scorpion in his room and we had to call husband to get it (difficult child hates husband) while difficult child and I were out husband came and look for the scorpion and took this out of the house but left the bed out of place. Well when difficult child saw his bed out of place started screaming at the top of his lungs and swering at my husband (husband was already gone) and destroying everything on his path, went to the bathrooms and broke the big mirrors that are over the sinks. This time I did not call the police, difficult child was warn that he will be in juvenile hall for a long time if he keeps breaking the law.
difficult child was ordered to drug testing and the results have been negative for more than a month now, then... why is he so violent? what's wrong with his mind? the psycology says that he is just missbehaving, that there is nothing wrong with him.
Is there something good about my life? I lost my husband, my child is wasting his life and he does not care about anything, he is failing all his classes he is very behind in credits, husband and I are stuck with 2 houses because of the real state market and the money is very tight. I sure don't want to exist, when is going to end this nightmare? Sorry about the long post