lovemyson1
Well-Known Member
Hello good people,
As you know my son has been relapsing, living with his girlfriend and somehow functioning. Yesterday his girlfriend told us he took her iPhone 6 and left as she was showering. He then would not take her calls. Long story short, he's back to stealing again and from the one person that was still in his corner. I feel sorry for her but she's learning now. He told me last week he had a full time job and was "getting it all together". Lies, lies, lies... The only thing we were providing for him was his cell phone so that we could be in touch with him and so he could use it to get jobs. But now that he's back to his criminal behavior we decided to turn the phone off. It's been one year since this whole drama started for us, and he's right back to where he was then. He's had some victories, and some wonderful sober months, but now he's with his old druggie friends, stealing and using and that's his life now. Oddly, I'm not as emotional as before, I think I'm getting used to this now. I'm sad and disappointed but I can't live my life trying to fix his. My husband and I both agree that we must live and appreciate our daughters, grandson and each other and not fixate on him. I've grown. My hope now is that he will want to stop this lifestyle and seek help on his own. I want to thank those of you who have helped me grow and learn to accept the things I can't change. I hope my experience will help someone as well. This forum has been so helpful to me. I still have hope and believe he will get better, just so scared he will ruin his life before that happens. Both my husband and I told him we love him, get help and stop this lifestyle before it destroys you.. That's about it.
As you know my son has been relapsing, living with his girlfriend and somehow functioning. Yesterday his girlfriend told us he took her iPhone 6 and left as she was showering. He then would not take her calls. Long story short, he's back to stealing again and from the one person that was still in his corner. I feel sorry for her but she's learning now. He told me last week he had a full time job and was "getting it all together". Lies, lies, lies... The only thing we were providing for him was his cell phone so that we could be in touch with him and so he could use it to get jobs. But now that he's back to his criminal behavior we decided to turn the phone off. It's been one year since this whole drama started for us, and he's right back to where he was then. He's had some victories, and some wonderful sober months, but now he's with his old druggie friends, stealing and using and that's his life now. Oddly, I'm not as emotional as before, I think I'm getting used to this now. I'm sad and disappointed but I can't live my life trying to fix his. My husband and I both agree that we must live and appreciate our daughters, grandson and each other and not fixate on him. I've grown. My hope now is that he will want to stop this lifestyle and seek help on his own. I want to thank those of you who have helped me grow and learn to accept the things I can't change. I hope my experience will help someone as well. This forum has been so helpful to me. I still have hope and believe he will get better, just so scared he will ruin his life before that happens. Both my husband and I told him we love him, get help and stop this lifestyle before it destroys you.. That's about it.