pinevalley
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My difficult child was discharged from rehab last week after being in the program for 30 days. We are already having lots of problems with him. The school administrator sent me a message today telling me that several other students have told her that difficult child is using weed again. He has also been hanging around with this girl he thinks he is crazy about, and she is officially homeless. The teacher told me that both difficult child and this homeless girl were kicked out of a fast food restaurant last week-end because they were smoking pot in the bathroom. This was 4 days after difficult child was discharged from rehab!
One of the conditions for our son to live in our house was that he is not to have any contact with this homeless girl. I found both difficult child and the homeless girl at the fast food restaurant last week-end, but difficult child looked alert and he did not seem to be doing drugs. When I found him with this girl I ordered him to come home with me right away but he refused to move, because he said he had to talk to the homeless girl. I can't physically make him stay away from this girl, and he knows that there is not much we can do if he insists on seeing this girl. I didn't like him spending all his time with this girl, but I told him my first concern was that he stay clean of drugs. Now we have this report from a teacher that he has been using weed since almost right after he was discharged from rehab. My husband is furious at difficult child and he wants to start eviction proceedings against difficult child, so that we can kick him out of our house. difficult child lies as easily as he breathes, and I know that he will deny smoking weed again. He is even part of an intensive out patient program 4 days a week, and I'm sure he is lying to them as well. difficult child had a drug test this week at the program and it was negative, which I don't understand if he was smoking last week-end.
difficult child just called me and he was trying hard to convince me that he is not using again. I think that he is even using the NA meetings as an excuse to meet this girl and get high. He has told me several times the last week that he was going to an NA meeting, and he walked to a nearby church where he says a meeting was held. I told me that I wanted to see the sign-up sheet from the meeting to prove that he actually went to a meeting, but he has never been able to bring a signed sheet home. We don't let difficult child drive a car and he does not have a cell phone anymore, so he walks everywhere and there is no way that I can reach him when he is out of the house.
I hate the idea of kicking him out of our house, because I am sure that we will be pushing him closer to this homeless girl. She sleeps overnight in the foyer of an apartment building close to our house, and I am sure that difficult child still wants to take care of her and protect her. difficult child keeps insisting that he does not want to use drugs anymore, and he is attending the outpatient program on his own. I just feel like he is playing games with us, because he says all the right things but then he still hangs around with this girl who is not a good influence at all.
Do you have any other suggestions other than starting eviction proceedings against our son? I am completely at a loss about what we should do right now. It seems like my husband and I are always trying to come up with more ideas to help him stay clean, and busy with healthy activities, but difficult child does not want to do anything but hang around at a fast food restaurant with this homeless girl. He is turning into such a loser, and it is so disappointing for my h and I.
One of the conditions for our son to live in our house was that he is not to have any contact with this homeless girl. I found both difficult child and the homeless girl at the fast food restaurant last week-end, but difficult child looked alert and he did not seem to be doing drugs. When I found him with this girl I ordered him to come home with me right away but he refused to move, because he said he had to talk to the homeless girl. I can't physically make him stay away from this girl, and he knows that there is not much we can do if he insists on seeing this girl. I didn't like him spending all his time with this girl, but I told him my first concern was that he stay clean of drugs. Now we have this report from a teacher that he has been using weed since almost right after he was discharged from rehab. My husband is furious at difficult child and he wants to start eviction proceedings against difficult child, so that we can kick him out of our house. difficult child lies as easily as he breathes, and I know that he will deny smoking weed again. He is even part of an intensive out patient program 4 days a week, and I'm sure he is lying to them as well. difficult child had a drug test this week at the program and it was negative, which I don't understand if he was smoking last week-end.
difficult child just called me and he was trying hard to convince me that he is not using again. I think that he is even using the NA meetings as an excuse to meet this girl and get high. He has told me several times the last week that he was going to an NA meeting, and he walked to a nearby church where he says a meeting was held. I told me that I wanted to see the sign-up sheet from the meeting to prove that he actually went to a meeting, but he has never been able to bring a signed sheet home. We don't let difficult child drive a car and he does not have a cell phone anymore, so he walks everywhere and there is no way that I can reach him when he is out of the house.
I hate the idea of kicking him out of our house, because I am sure that we will be pushing him closer to this homeless girl. She sleeps overnight in the foyer of an apartment building close to our house, and I am sure that difficult child still wants to take care of her and protect her. difficult child keeps insisting that he does not want to use drugs anymore, and he is attending the outpatient program on his own. I just feel like he is playing games with us, because he says all the right things but then he still hangs around with this girl who is not a good influence at all.
Do you have any other suggestions other than starting eviction proceedings against our son? I am completely at a loss about what we should do right now. It seems like my husband and I are always trying to come up with more ideas to help him stay clean, and busy with healthy activities, but difficult child does not want to do anything but hang around at a fast food restaurant with this homeless girl. He is turning into such a loser, and it is so disappointing for my h and I.