JKF
Well-Known Member
I reached out to the director of homeless outreach at the MHA yesterday. This woman originally worked with me last year to help difficult child get off the streets. I wanted to touch base with her because I was curious if she could help difficult child in any way. I was also curious if he's reached out to the MHA like he said he did.
Anyway, she said that difficult child has not reached out for help. She tried calling him at the number I gave her and he never responded.
Then she said - "J" what more do you think we can do for him?
And I said - I really don't know but at this point probably nothing.
She was SO nice but reinforced the fact that unless HE wants help they can't help him.
She asked me about his last few placements:
Her: Before he was 18, he was in a group home placement, what happened there?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Her: What happened at the homeless shelter in PA?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Her: What happened at the mission in NJ?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Her: What happened at Safe Haven?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Her: What happened at the motel placement?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Her: What happened in Idaho?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Of course she knows the history and wasn't asking for any other reason except to drill into my head that every time he's had an opportunity to be helped he gets kicked out for lying, stealing, and refusal to follow any rules.
She said she's a mother too and she knows how horrible this must be but that unless he wants the help and is willing to take medications and go to therapy there's only so much anyone can do. Of course I already know that but sometimes I need that extra reinforcement and the more I hear it from people the more it truly sinks in.
She was kind and gentle but she really gave me the swift kick in the rear that I needed yesterday!
Anyway, she said that difficult child has not reached out for help. She tried calling him at the number I gave her and he never responded.
Then she said - "J" what more do you think we can do for him?
And I said - I really don't know but at this point probably nothing.
She was SO nice but reinforced the fact that unless HE wants help they can't help him.
She asked me about his last few placements:
Her: Before he was 18, he was in a group home placement, what happened there?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Her: What happened at the homeless shelter in PA?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Her: What happened at the mission in NJ?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Her: What happened at Safe Haven?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Her: What happened at the motel placement?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Her: What happened in Idaho?
Me: He lied, stole, wouldn't follow the rules and got kicked out.
Of course she knows the history and wasn't asking for any other reason except to drill into my head that every time he's had an opportunity to be helped he gets kicked out for lying, stealing, and refusal to follow any rules.
She said she's a mother too and she knows how horrible this must be but that unless he wants the help and is willing to take medications and go to therapy there's only so much anyone can do. Of course I already know that but sometimes I need that extra reinforcement and the more I hear it from people the more it truly sinks in.
She was kind and gentle but she really gave me the swift kick in the rear that I needed yesterday!