SeekingStrength
Well-Known Member
My last SOS thread was becoming kinda long, so I started a new one to say I finally sent an email to gfg32 last night. I had been putting it off, knowing it would spark a flurry of responses from him. Last night our youngest son called to say he had received a FB message from gfg32 asking him to get their sister to take down a photo she has on her FB page. Gfg32 had sent message to daughter a couple weeks ago about this. She did not reply and blocked him. It is a harmless photo of the four of us (before birth of youngest) standing in front of church. Gfg32 is about 6 years old. A control thing...
It irritated me so much that gfg32 would reach out to his siblings, after years of nothing, over something so trivial. But, it is obviously a big thing to him, because he is not in control over this darn photo.
The email I sent had We love you in the subject line:
always have, and always will...that will never change.
You are a very smart guy. You can figure this out and find the best help....therapy/rehab, whatever will help you turn your ship around. You deserve a good life.
We have no money to send you, so please quit asking. That will not happen, nor should it. You are 32.
Best of luck, son.
Love,
Mom & Dad
Thanks for the input on the email wording; as you can tell, I borrowed heavily from you. I WANTED to say a bunch more...but knew better. He sent three emails over the next few hours, just stupid kind of stuff. You said you knew I'd have a fight with S (guy he stayed with a few days when he was down a couple weeks ago). I've only had two fights with S. This time it was because he inferred Dad is not a real man.
hahaha...like that would bother gfg32?
I can't even remember what was in the other two emails - but along the same sort of lines. Oh, he did refer to my future daughter-in-law. That bothers me more than anything else, because he is delusional and thinks he can make that happen, when I am certain exgf will NOT be with him now - certainly not without extensive therapy and improvement, including a job. and, this may get him incarcerated again as he tries to control that in his messed up frame of mind.
It is a beautiful day. husband and I are going out for an INexpensive dinner in a bit and tomorrow is husband's birthday. We will have lunch with daughter and youngest son.
I know I am way behind many of you on this board and wish I could speed up my recovery out of the enabling and the insanity of thinking husband and I can do something...but hey, I'm plodding along...and have not fallen in a few days. That's progress!
Thanks for listening.
It irritated me so much that gfg32 would reach out to his siblings, after years of nothing, over something so trivial. But, it is obviously a big thing to him, because he is not in control over this darn photo.
The email I sent had We love you in the subject line:
always have, and always will...that will never change.
You are a very smart guy. You can figure this out and find the best help....therapy/rehab, whatever will help you turn your ship around. You deserve a good life.
We have no money to send you, so please quit asking. That will not happen, nor should it. You are 32.
Best of luck, son.
Love,
Mom & Dad
Thanks for the input on the email wording; as you can tell, I borrowed heavily from you. I WANTED to say a bunch more...but knew better. He sent three emails over the next few hours, just stupid kind of stuff. You said you knew I'd have a fight with S (guy he stayed with a few days when he was down a couple weeks ago). I've only had two fights with S. This time it was because he inferred Dad is not a real man.
hahaha...like that would bother gfg32?
I can't even remember what was in the other two emails - but along the same sort of lines. Oh, he did refer to my future daughter-in-law. That bothers me more than anything else, because he is delusional and thinks he can make that happen, when I am certain exgf will NOT be with him now - certainly not without extensive therapy and improvement, including a job. and, this may get him incarcerated again as he tries to control that in his messed up frame of mind.
It is a beautiful day. husband and I are going out for an INexpensive dinner in a bit and tomorrow is husband's birthday. We will have lunch with daughter and youngest son.
I know I am way behind many of you on this board and wish I could speed up my recovery out of the enabling and the insanity of thinking husband and I can do something...but hey, I'm plodding along...and have not fallen in a few days. That's progress!
Thanks for listening.