Her broker told her that we need to offer them a few thousand dollars for them to go peacefully and voluntarily.
This situation is really helping me learn a lot of things, sadly. I bought the house I live in during the real estate downturn. There was a woman on my block who was a squatter. She seemed like a regular, middle class person. (Little did I know.) She paid the utilities and nobody questioned her right to do so. The house was foreclosed upon and she maintained residency for several years. I heard that the bank that owned the house paid her many thousands of dollars to leave. I never knew why. Now I do.
Also, about 5 years ago I bought an income property for a price way below the market, because squatters were occupying it. I mean I bought it for just over half price. We didn't know these laws!! Had I known them I would have been afraid. But what we did was assume that they had no rights and we became the squatters. I am actually quivering with fear about what could have happened. People would just climb in windows when we were there. It was scary but I could never have handled it, had I known these people had rights. Who would have guessed it? (I am glad this is anonymous.)
I agree very much with the idea of negotiating with them, but I would do it through an attorney, not directly. You already have a bottom line that the squatter gave you--a month in a hotel and half the deposit on a trailer. That sounds like he's willing to settle for 3 to 5k.
Very little could be worse than this going on and on until they're evicted. If you can, I would cut my losses--unless you are able to get them out if his parole is revoked. I think he is on parole.
I put in a call to the local mental health office there stating it was urgent snd they never called back. Wth? I’ll call back Monday. I’d like to find out about supervision and / or group homes. But we know she won’t be open to these things
Your daughter has free choice. She has greatly delimited her options, like so many of our children, who find it so very hard to learn from experience. Your daughter amazes me by how much support and understanding she has from people around her, including where she lives right now. I am only watching this from afar, but I would not feel responsibility to scout out or arrange alternative living arrangements for her, unless and until she comes to you and asks for help.
From my own experience it all leads to ruin, when I try to "fix things." My ruin. I would focus only on what you're willing to do, and leave the rest to her. It sounds like what you're willing to do right now is to continuing being payee for her, and to supplement for necessary medical things.
Local mental health offices are not full-service places. In my own experience they operate on a crisis mentality, which is to say, their resources and capabilities are thin, in flux, and they're in crisis. They do not tend to respond well or comprehensively to any particular person who needs them. That is my experience with my son, and also when I worked there.
Most important and urgent is the pain you're in right now. In the main, is it a sense of betrayal by her? A sense of helplessness, anger, and violation due to the actions and attitudes of the squatters? Fear of the unknown, that is, how much worse it could get? Fear, regret and worry about your daughter, the sense that she has torpedoed your efforts to help her, what now will happen to you, and how that will affect you? Or something else? I think it's important to know the source(s) of your suffering, because that way you can take the actions that will remediate it.
