I really think that difficult child's actually believe their own lies. It reminds me of when little kids close their eyes because they believe you can't see them if they can't see you. For me, I would support him emotionally and offer advice but I would not spend money on a lawyer. You have to do what you are comfortable with at this point. To help or not to help. Sounds like a bad Shakespeare play. I do wonder though, if your son thinks/expects that since you are a lawyer that you will make this all go away for him. Good for you Lil. It's tough roller coaster ride to be on for sure and all you know is want off the ride. It would be nice if there was a once size fits all answer but there's not, especially when you are dealing with peoples emotions and a mothers love is probably one of the strongest emotions there is.