toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Ugh.... sometimes my son drives me nuts!! And there is a small amusing piece here too.... you have to see the funny stuff in this life we live. So yesterday my son called and told me he had an interview today with a bake shop..... great! I thought gosh he might like working at a bakery, he likes to cook. This morning he calls me upset because the program wont give him a ride to the interview...... to the vape shop..... I misheard him, not a bake shop a vape shop!!! Guess my hearing is going!!! Of course he likes the idea of working at a vape shop. OK I dont really have a big problem with nicotine at this point, I know he vapes so I said I would call the program. So I did.... and I talked to them. Well they had checked out the smoke shop and they do not support recovery and sell various products, including things that are used for things other than nicotine!!! OK fine nope, not a good place for my son to work so I totally support them not giving my son a ride to the interview. So I told my son that.
Well of course then we got into both a text conversation and a phone conversation. Yada yada yada. All kinds of baloney. This is has passion. This is something he cares about. Knows about. Why do I have a problem with it... blah blah blah. F you... F the program. I basically told him I wasnt going to support him doing something that would encourage him using substances. He is an addict... he went on about how I think marijuania is a gateway drug but it can be used for medicinal purposes.... blah blah blah.... all true but I dont think for him he can use it moderately. We went round and round. The thing that really disturbed me is that he made it really clear that come march after he is off probation he has every intention of smoking weed and seems to believe it will not be a problem for him, seems to believe that I should think it should be ok because at least it is better than heroin. I did agree that yes smoking weed is better than using heroin but it would be better to use nothing and be clean... and he said well what if that is not an option and basically told me that for him that is not an option. I said why is that not an option and he said because he does not want it to be an option!!
So basically we are back to my son being really stuck in his addiction... he may not be super actively using right at the moment because of probation but come March I think he will start smoking pot again... and I suspect that will take him pretty quickly downhilll pretty fast.
In the text conversation at one point... he also talked about life not really being worth much... I think this was some manipulative talk to me but still pretty worrisome.
On top of all that my daughter visited and I had breakfasta with her this morning before she left.... my son called me while I was with her. She talked about the bad memories of him at home, and that was one reason she didnt like coming home that much. Yuck. She was talking about us moving...... That is some of her stuff to work out but I sure didnt need to hear that too.
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Well of course then we got into both a text conversation and a phone conversation. Yada yada yada. All kinds of baloney. This is has passion. This is something he cares about. Knows about. Why do I have a problem with it... blah blah blah. F you... F the program. I basically told him I wasnt going to support him doing something that would encourage him using substances. He is an addict... he went on about how I think marijuania is a gateway drug but it can be used for medicinal purposes.... blah blah blah.... all true but I dont think for him he can use it moderately. We went round and round. The thing that really disturbed me is that he made it really clear that come march after he is off probation he has every intention of smoking weed and seems to believe it will not be a problem for him, seems to believe that I should think it should be ok because at least it is better than heroin. I did agree that yes smoking weed is better than using heroin but it would be better to use nothing and be clean... and he said well what if that is not an option and basically told me that for him that is not an option. I said why is that not an option and he said because he does not want it to be an option!!
So basically we are back to my son being really stuck in his addiction... he may not be super actively using right at the moment because of probation but come March I think he will start smoking pot again... and I suspect that will take him pretty quickly downhilll pretty fast.
In the text conversation at one point... he also talked about life not really being worth much... I think this was some manipulative talk to me but still pretty worrisome.
On top of all that my daughter visited and I had breakfasta with her this morning before she left.... my son called me while I was with her. She talked about the bad memories of him at home, and that was one reason she didnt like coming home that much. Yuck. She was talking about us moving...... That is some of her stuff to work out but I sure didnt need to hear that too.
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