Devastated7
New Member
First timer here, hoping for some advice.
The story, I’ll be brief as mine is very similar to many others here, sadly. .18 yr old son. Problem child of the family, always has been. He is 2nd child of 5. Drugs, marijuana, stared in 10th grade. Found out he had sexually malested daughter #4 when he was 12. I was so scared when I found pictures on an old digital camera (the real old ones with a 1 inch square screen, lol) that I told the therapist we were seeing. Of course he had to report it to the police. Sent son to live with parents the night I found camera, Cps did a thorough investigation, daughter went to counseling, $15,000 in lawyer fees and 18months later all charges dropped. Ok fine, but during that time is when son discovered drugs. He became too much trouble for my mom so he moved back home this past May. Got him in a special school that could get him a HS diploma quickly so he graduated last week....a semester early.
Can’t hold a job, stealing....etc. this past Feb he stole a gun and sold it. That kid was caught and of course spilled where he got the gun. My son was arrested. We bailed him out, went to court, he now is out with a settlement, fees, community service...blah blah...more money out of my pocket..... He is stil, using drugs!!!
I just don’t get it and I don’t know what to do.
If I find them in my house, who do I call? I want to kick him out. How do I do that?
Found alcohol in his room, we don’t drink so don’t know where he is getting it.
He is volatile. I’m afraid he will throw bricks at my house...or something equally crazy. I’m scared for the 3 other kids in the house (oldest in college).
He denies everything.
Have seen 2 psychiatrists and 3 therapist in 2 years. He won’t cooperate, so needless to say I have waisted a lot of money.
There is seriously wires that are not connecting in his brain.
He is so smart, yet so reactive that he can’t do anything.
He was put on the spectrum....but really at this point that doesn’t help too much. He won’t take medicine. Tried TONS, was on ADHD medications since 4th grade. Now on nothing.
Husband wants nothing to do with him, would like to just disown him.....so I get to deal with it.
Any suggestions would be a blessing.
Thank you
The story, I’ll be brief as mine is very similar to many others here, sadly. .18 yr old son. Problem child of the family, always has been. He is 2nd child of 5. Drugs, marijuana, stared in 10th grade. Found out he had sexually malested daughter #4 when he was 12. I was so scared when I found pictures on an old digital camera (the real old ones with a 1 inch square screen, lol) that I told the therapist we were seeing. Of course he had to report it to the police. Sent son to live with parents the night I found camera, Cps did a thorough investigation, daughter went to counseling, $15,000 in lawyer fees and 18months later all charges dropped. Ok fine, but during that time is when son discovered drugs. He became too much trouble for my mom so he moved back home this past May. Got him in a special school that could get him a HS diploma quickly so he graduated last week....a semester early.
Can’t hold a job, stealing....etc. this past Feb he stole a gun and sold it. That kid was caught and of course spilled where he got the gun. My son was arrested. We bailed him out, went to court, he now is out with a settlement, fees, community service...blah blah...more money out of my pocket..... He is stil, using drugs!!!
I just don’t get it and I don’t know what to do.
If I find them in my house, who do I call? I want to kick him out. How do I do that?
Found alcohol in his room, we don’t drink so don’t know where he is getting it.
He is volatile. I’m afraid he will throw bricks at my house...or something equally crazy. I’m scared for the 3 other kids in the house (oldest in college).
He denies everything.
Have seen 2 psychiatrists and 3 therapist in 2 years. He won’t cooperate, so needless to say I have waisted a lot of money.
There is seriously wires that are not connecting in his brain.
He is so smart, yet so reactive that he can’t do anything.
He was put on the spectrum....but really at this point that doesn’t help too much. He won’t take medicine. Tried TONS, was on ADHD medications since 4th grade. Now on nothing.
Husband wants nothing to do with him, would like to just disown him.....so I get to deal with it.
Any suggestions would be a blessing.
Thank you