Feeling Sad---Son is Homeless

[Feeling Sad]

www.getselfhelp.co.uk

7 step self help course

Sorry, ladies. I was rushing off to an all day boring inservice!

This is a great site. I saw a therapist when I went through my second divorce. She had a support group that used a book with CBT. It helps to build self esteem and break old ways of handing situations and seeing things. You evaluate your behavior and how it made you feel, and how you responded, etc.

Leafy, you could fill out a worksheet for that time back in Maine, that you stood up to your sister and another for the incident with your sister, a.k.a Attilla, when you swore over the speaker phone. How did your body feel, how did you respond, what did you do differently or the same, how would someone else have responded, etc. The worksheets are downloadable. It is good for depression, anxiety, anger, stress, low self-esteem, grief, etc.

Do a step a week. Have fun! It is concise and easy to follow.

Sometimes having something dissected and analyzed in front of you gives you clarity. It shows what doesn't work and why. By reframing your mind, one will not get stuck in the muck and mire...or whirly swirly. You will glean new ways of responding to uncomfortable situations.

ROAR...or rather...brilliant!!!

 

[Copabanana]

Hi Feeling,

You have a holiday tomorrow. Any plans? Thank you for all your help for Thanksgiving. I am thinking about it all of it--subliminally so that I do not obsess.

COPA

 

[Copabanana]

Hi Feeling,

How was your day today?

Do you have to work tomorrow?

Today is my sister's birthday. For the past couple of days, I thought of sending her an email. But at the end of the day, was afraid because I thought she would use any contact as a way to hurt me.

M said that I should make the decision based upon how I felt, and about me not about how she would respond or not. What would make me feel best in myself, about myself.

I guess that would be to send her a note, like thinking of you on your birthday.

It is not too late to do so. Maybe I will.

The thing is this: She will send back a note saying this *she is very predictable, a one trick pony.

And will say the same thing she did after my mother died: I cannot forgive you for how you made Mama choose between us and how I have to live with her choosing you.

So the decision is between two parts of myself: the self-protective part or the strong part that can take the high road, even when they know it will arrive at a dead end.

I will be glad when today ends so that it will be the end of the interval of possibility.

I do not like my sister much, but I love her. I have never really had much of a relationship with her, since she was a baby.

I hope you check in today.

COPA

 

[Copabanana]

Well Feeling,

I sent a note. Just thinking of you on your birthday. I hope you had a happy 63rd birthday. Or something like that. You must have sent a vibe to be strong. That it is our intent that matters. Sticks and stones will break my bones. And words will too.

COPA

 

[Feeling Sad]

I have the flu...very bad flu...

 

[Copabanana]

M had it too. Are you in bed? And today was your holiday. Try to sleep. If it is the respiratory flu, if you drink alcohol, try a hot toddy of hot water or tea, lemon juice, sugar or honey and alcohol, like brandy or bourbon. M's family uses tequilla. It will help you sleep.

I hope you feel better soon. It is not fair you got sick.

COPA

 

[New Leaf]

Feeling please take care. I hope you are able to take off work and rest. If I were there I would make you chicken soup.
Get well little bird
leafy

 

[Copabanana]

Hi Feeling,

We are quite a pair to draw too. I hope you are better today. I would make you chicken soup, too. And then my remedy with the bourbon.

I learned the secret to chicken soup many years ago, when I made a very bland one that I wanted to take to a Thanksgiving dinner. The two hosts were young jewish emergency room doctors and I wanted to make an impression. I had gone to a poultry store and bought all of the chicken parts that were said to contribute to a good result. Still bland.

I think I must have asked half a dozen older jewish women. No internet in these years.

Fresh dill and a whole tomato into the broth. Made the difference. Now I just use lots of garlic. And then more garlic. But this was the late 70's. Garlic had not yet had its renaissance which was to come.

I made the most delicious of matzoh balls, too.

It was not meant to be with the doctors. It was not my destiny.

I hope you check in today, Feeling.

COPA

 

[New Leaf]

Hi little bird, hope you are better. Sending healing wishes.
leafy

 

[Copabanana]

Hi Feeling,

I hope you are on the way to better.

Copa

 

[AppleCori]

FS,

I am so sorry to hear about your illness.

Get well soon. We are pulling for you.

Apple

 

[Feeling Sad]

I am doing better. I am still feeling very weak, though. Thank you for the get well wishes.

 

[Copabanana]

Feeling,

I am glad you are feeling a little better. Have a good night, Feeling.

COPA

 

[AppleCori]

Glad you are feeling a little better, F&S.

 

[New Leaf]

I am doing better. I am still feeling very weak, though. Thank you for the get well wishes.

Thanks for checking in little bird, try to get a lot of rest. I hope you are able to eat a little something. Do take care sister.
leafy

 

[Scent of Cedar *]

I am coming late to this thread. Are you feeling better, Feeling? This flu that is making the rounds is very bad. Watch for relapse, and take good and gentle care with yourself as you recover. If you are still feeling badly:

Mucous thinner will help thin the secretions in your lungs. Guaifenesin is the generic name of the medication used in Mucinex. It works by stimulating the stomach lining. Isn't that an interesting thing.

http://www.webmd.com/allergies/features/the-truth-about-mucus?page=3

Flo-Nase is over the counter now. That is a nasal steroid that will decrease inflammation without the jittery feeling decongestants can give.

They say this doesn't work, but it helps me: Wash your feet with nice, warm water. Rub the soles of your feet with Vicks Vapo Rub. Put on some nice, thick white socks and go to bed. I always put some on my chest and under my nose, too.

Also, did you know Nyquil and such no longer contain decongestant? So, when I have a something respiratory going on, I use Day Care at bedtime.

Watch how much you are using, because there is alot of acetaminophen in cold medicines. Alka Seltzer makes a cold medication you take in hot water. No acetaminophen in that one.

Also, did everyone already know that if we take Alka Seltzer at the first sign of bladder infection, it will change the pH of the urine and that will kill the bacteria?

Yep.

They say cranberry does the same thing. I have not tried that.

Feel better, Feeling.

Cedar

 

[Copabanana]

Rub the soles of your feet with Vicks Vapo Rub. Put on some nice, thick white socks and go to bed. I always put some on my chest and under my nose, too.

Cedar, I miss my mother, and nobody can replace her, but I wish you could have been my mother, too.

PS It would not have worked out because I am a little older than you. Not by much, lest you think I am old.

COPA

 

[Copabanana]

Feeling, are you feeling a little better today? I am 3 days in bed, too.

COPA

 

[Copabanana]

Also, did everyone already know that if we take Alka Seltzer at the first sign of bladder infection, it will change the pH of the urine and that will kill the bacteria?

Yep.

No, I did not know this.

They say cranberry does the same thing. I have not tried that.

I have.

30 years ago I went with a friend on a trip to learn cross country skiing in the Sierras. Never again. I think I got a bladder infection, the worst in my life, from the cold. There were cans of cranberry juice in the drink dispenser. Except nowhere to go to escape the cold. I drank many cans. I think it did help. I did not know until now how it worked, Cedar.

Thank you.

COPA

 

[Scent of Cedar *]

I think it is the same principle there, but with cranberry juice (or cranberry extract in pill form) there is something too about it making the bladder lining impervious to bacterial colonization. Vitamin C too is said to alter urinary pH. I never used to believe any of those things, but now, I do.

I have never used cranberry, but I have used the alka seltzer (twice), and it worked both times. One tablet with water, just as directed on the package. If symptoms persist, another tablet in the morning with water.

Relief is almost immediate.

If symptoms continue, then best to make an appointment with a doctor.

Isn't this site an interesting place.

:O)

Cedar

As long as we are somehow discussing medical things: So, I am not sure whether it was no-see-um bites which became infected or a spider bite.



It was on my calf, and was angry, purplish red, heated. I put antibiotic cream on it and it did nothing. I was thinking about the doctor ~ it was that bad and scary looking, and kept getting bigger. But of course it was the weekend. So I tried Tea Tree Oil.

And it worked. By Monday, it was still nasty looking but definitely getting better. Today, it is drying and not heated or painful to the touch.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Melaleuca