Never. At least he's switched from a beanie to a ball cap.Do you think you can get your son to lose the hat?
Haha. He's a FUNNY Difficult Child! Thanks for the laugh, that was pretty good.I do NOT understand him. I don't understand the lack of hygiene. I even said today, "When you were a kid, you loved baths. When you were a young teen we yelled at you for taking 1/2 hour showers!" His response was, "When you were a kid you hated naps. People change."
I agree one thousand percent with this. The hardest part of having them close in again is to want to do it for them. And seeing up close all the things they need to do and need to see and need to care about--without trying to take responsibility or get mad (me) that they do not.Your son can actually do this himself. It's part of being a grownup
Yes, it is. But oh how good it feels when they are here, close, and OK. I had forgotten how that felt. How it feels to have him close, to hear his voice, happy. His sense of humor. To hear him laugh and to want to hug and kiss him with happiness, and to do so.The eggshell walk in your own sanctuary is too much
Yes. This is one thousand percent true. And then, when they are ready, they push forward on their own. It may be compliance, because they must. Or it may be, because they decide that it works for them to succeed. They are ready.They push back 10X harder for every effort we make to propel them forward.
See...this really gets me. Right now he has no girlfriend, but I would not date anyone who was like this. I truly can't imagine kissing anyone on the mouth who's teeth are so gross! Why on earth would you let any man close who isn't clean? Ick! I mean, a little sweaty from working out or something is one thing, but not bathing for days at a time? Really?neither has his girlfriend
I once dated, for brief period of time, a guy in high school who had a beautiful little sports car. He was tall, dark and good looking. Perfect, right? Would not brush his teeth!!! So sad, but no deal. I told my friend who had lesser standards she could have him!I truly can't imagine kissing anyone on the mouth who's teeth are so gross!
Yep. I don't remember what our son's braces cost, I think around $5,000 - and we had to have them paid in ONE year! No idea why...they never would tell us why the underwriter's wouldn't give us 2 years, which is standard, and we have good credit. But what's done is done. Still kills me that we wasted that money.J went through the whole braces thing. Cost me about $7000. He was always bad with his oral hygiene. You'd think I was trying to poor acid down his throat instead of toothpaste.
Yes, but not like a nasty dogs tooth. A dog with poor owners who don't even give hard biscuits.Well to be fair no amount of brushing your teeth can stop tartrus you will still have it you have to go to the dentist to clean it once a year.
Sometimes I wish that too. I grew up dirt poor, and I knew not to ask for anything. Put myself through college and am very grateful for all that I have worked hard for. J definitely got more than I ever had as a child and his attitude about entitlement is much different than mine.There are so many times I am honestly glad we dont have any extra money to do these things for my kids.
The money was invested by loving parents to do the best they could for their child. The investment continues. It is all part of that, the relationship. The result is not arithmetic. It is love. All of it exists somewhere inside of him, acknowledged or not.Still kills me that we wasted that money.
Me too. My partner believes that I gave my son too much and demanded too little. I think this view is simplistic. I think what unifies our kids is their immaturity and their failure "to deliver" in the time and the manner that we expect or would wish for.Put myself through college and am very grateful for all that I have worked hard for. J definitely got more than I ever had as a child