Things have seemed to take a turn for the worst. Not sure they were necessarily improving but her birthday was last Saturday and all in all that day turned out ok. The prior weeks we had spent time shopping together and went to lunch with her and my husband for her birthday. But the spark in her still was not there-it was just another day-she smiled for a couple of pictures but it is as though I am not looking at the same child. She wanted a cookie cake and my husband and I picked it up the day before her birthday. Well she asked if she could leave her gifts-primarily new clothes here- and she would get later. She put them in her closet left in the gift bags. She left before 4 P.M. and apparently after she left, he drove and hour and half to see some friend of his that he was unable to attend his graduation or some function but when he got there, he told my daughter he had never been before and it was sketchy-yet she sat in the car and called me to tell me this--- and she was upset that he wanted to do that on her birthday before she was to meet my other daughter for dinner. Well she kept texting me that she was irritated and she missed me and once again how she hates how she is living. Well I have walked on eggshells and driven myself coo coo about what to say or not to say as either way she says I am sarcastic or I am just disagreeing or ignoring her..so I said a few things like you must like this life and arguing with a crazy man. Well she said NO to all. Then she wrote Happy Mother's Day around 9:01 the next morning and how she would let me know she was on the way. Well it was anything but happy. My other daughter had just arrived around noon. We sat on the back porch talking and laughing and I had just showed her a short letter with pictures I had written about my mother who had passed away July 14, 2015. I did not expect my other daughter quite that early as she was suppose to get off work around 2, so she surprised me when she showed up early. I was just enjoying my morning and took my time getting dressed. I was waiting on my clothes to dry and that was it. About the time we were reading my short letter, my other daughter had opened the garage door--the garage is detached and located behind our house and we were still on the porch-she peaked around the door and then closed it as if she was going back inside the garage the way she came through--well all of a sudden she opened the door again and started walking towards the porch when we looked up that crazy man was in her car waving as he drove by. It took me by surprise-though it should not have-but I knew this meant she was on a time schedule. His father and stepmother are the ones that live approximately 10 minutes from our house but supposedly he does not see them much. Ironically he was going to their house while my daughter spent whatever time they arranged with me. Well that did not go well with me whatsoever...but just before saying anything about that--she walked up on the porch as we were reading...both my other daughter and myself teared up reading about my mother...and my daughter started fussing saying you all are always sad.. I said we are reading what I wrote about my beloved mother for Mother's Day. I then proceeded to ask her why she was dropped off and she immediately asked me why her sister was-well her sister does not have her own car.
She kept yelling for me to get showered and dressed. I was completely showered, ready other than my clothes and again they all knew our original plans were to go to early dinner no sooner than 3:30 or 4 as my oldest daughter was scheduled to work until 2 and then she needed to get showered and dressed and come over...Well she went inside where my husband was and told him she was leaving as we were laughing and not getting dressed for dinner. So within 10 minutes or maybe 15 my oldest daughter and I walked inside and as we did, my other daughter was actually walking out the front door...my oldest daughter asked her "where are you going?" She said I am leaving---well she had called that crazy man and he was already sitting in front of our home...All because of this--actually back to before she arrived--she did keep texting me as to when she needed to leave to come to our home and again she knew approximately when we were going to dinner and besides just come over as soon as you can ---it is Mother's Day---enjoy each minute with your mother--don't ask when to come--so again I knew by her texting something was up otherwise she would have just come over. He had to make sure she came back home with him so he made sure he dropped her off. Well after she left she tried to call my husband and my other daughter . I texted her that it was hurtful of her the way she came into our home acting and that I would return her things because that was the last time I bought anything that had to be hidden. And for those that have read this entire thread--the "NEW PHONE." --this was the straw that broke the camels back. She had this new phone for 2 months--she wanted an early upgrade and we had always paid for her phone--but she kept back talking me at the time we kicked her out and I had temporarily suspended it for the day. In that short time, she went to his carrier and never really knew whose account-but Sprint had activated the same phone with a new number--was not her account or anyone's to do such and Sprint did not reach out to Verizon, our carrier to get proper authorization for this. Well this has gone on an on and I told her she certainly should take accountability as she knew herself this was wrong but do you think those immoral and crazy people care? So she said after I made a decision to upgrade her phone early and she wanted it for an early birthday present, she would tell his mom that she got a new phone and to cancel the number. It was our phone to begin with and Sprint does not have a contract-just monthly-but no one believed her about how unethical this was handled and that was our phone and my husband was the only one who could authorize the change. Verizon had no records or documentation that these people or Sprint contacted them to get authorization so basically this was FRAUD. I had never been so upset. But the kind person I was and because of fear for her dealing with this crazy man, I did not report it. I told her that she needed to as she was responsible just as much. Anyways, domestic violence agency had told me to make sure she has a phone, so that is why I decided to go ahead and get her another one. Sorry for so long winded but after she left with him, she comes back with a vengeance---she walked back into our home and started to grab her stuff-I asked her then was she going to use the new phone-after all 2 months had passed that she hid this phone in her dresser---she screamed as loud as she could-slapped her head and said he would break up with her if she got a new phone from me-----he had previously told her this as well as she would have to leave his house if I gave her a new phone and she took it as she texted me that--but at that time she laughed and said he was ridiculous---------so she slapped her head and threw her existing phone and said that she would be better off dead and she would commit suicide--went running through our home--screaming to give her the new phone, got up in my face screaming as loud as she could and at that point I was not giving it to her---threw the other phone several more times--got up in my face again bowed up as if she was about to hit me and yelled to give her the new phone---my oldest daughter then took the new phone still in the box from me out of fear of her hurting me and went running and grabbed my husbands phone---still during this time my other daughter then fell onto the floor screaming still, her body pushed the love seat and it hit the end table causing the lamp to go crashing and breaking--my older daughter called 911 and continued running outside--my other daughter jumped up from the floor and went running outside-neighbors and all out on Mother's Day. My husband had come from upstairs at the time he saw my daughter on the floor screaming---I have never seen her in rage like this ever in my life...I was a basket case--she had come back by herself the second time--she ran out the front door and sped off and I honestly thought she was going to hit the car that had just pulled up at the stop sign--she continued speeding and my other daughter was still on the phone with 911. One police officer came to our house--in the mean time I had called that crazy man trying to see if my daughter was at his father's house--he heard my daughter say the cops on their way and he told us that cops did not need to be involved---once the cop arrived we talked to him and he continued trying to call my daughter and she did not answer but she had broke her phone I was certain as many times as she threw it...we finally got this crazy man on the phone for the police officer to talk to and without a doubt, we could tell how the conversation was going..the cop had asked where my daughter was--he did not want to tell--thought I was pressing charges for the destruction--the cop said her mother has not said anything about such--he then told the cop I was trying to break them up- the cop said he was not concerned whatsoever about that--the cop continued asking him where she was and then the cop told him he did not need to be told how to do his job and that if he did not tell where he was they would spend all day locating them. This went on for about 10 minutes, so I am certain the cop knew who he was dealing with. The cop told him he had to not only call to speak with my daughter, which finally she got on the phone, but he had to personally see her---this was because she threatened suicide( he did not tell this to that crazy man) The cop left and they were in fact at his father's house ( I gave him the address as I knew he had to of been close by for her to back here so quickly ) and the cop called me back to tell me that my daughter had voluntarily gone with them to the hospital for an evaluation. That was this day. I was in tears. Whatever problems she may have, this crazy man has driven her absolutely insane. So no words the rest of the day.. In fact Monday arrived and about 5 o'clock, my husband, my older daughter, daughter's friend and myself were in the kitchen when my older daughter looked up and asked " what is Gabrielle doing here with a cop?" She did not knock, just walked in, and a sweet lady cop behind her, and said she wanted to get her things and asked us-the cop- to come along...You have to be kidding me?? Well the cop stood with me in the foyer as my daughter got some of her things...she asked me if I had been having problems--I summed it up much briefer than my thread here!!! She said to me "let me go outside and check this guy out." He was out front waiting in the car--I knew he had put her up to this...I was actually glad a cop came--she said he was tough trying to get answers out of but she told me this was awful and that my daughter needed serious therapy and that was just her opinion..and to call the non 911 department about her if and when she comes back home. She asked me his name, where he lived, and my information. We have never ever had violence in our home and this once humble,shy, sweet little girl was someone I never knew..But before the cop walked outside--she talked with me and watched my daughter hug my husband, pick up our little dog and kiss and hug her--and then she said let me walk outside to check him out---in the meantime, I stayed quite until right before my daughter left--I said why would you come into our home in rage and then have a cop to escort you for your belongings.
She said nothing...but when she left, she sent me a picture and said she was feeling down and started telling me how we should not have called the cops on her--she came into our home in a rage and threatening suicide-what family would not have done this?? she said she was extremely upset by everything and we are suppose to be family not enemies.continued saying she missed me and she meant that and it does not have to be this way.She knows I do not like her choices but I should not stop loving her. He has told her to make choices between him and us and that we were toxic. I have never been so heartbroken in my life.She said everyone is against her, she is not happy with herself..then wrote " Do I look happy with myself?" She is hurt by how she lives, her life is confused,and she does not want it that way..she does not know what to do, she is confused and sad all the time, she has no one to talk to-it is hard to go back home knowing we "still hate" her and that she does love me..she does not know who she is anymore and she has turned like she is because she does not know who she is. Then asked if we will let her come back--I said we have told you we would let you come back home. she responded with "really?" I reminded her that he threatened her if we gave her anything or she tried to come home, he would leave her--she said she did not care about that..she just is not herself--she wants us to be there for her and lift her up and support her and not be against her--if she was happy with herself, she would not have anger in her as she does--she is trying to treat me better-she is just trying to get her life right but it is getting worse-she feels so empty and lonely sometimes-she feels like she has lost her family who is suppose to support her and everyone is against her and she has been crying--she sees everyone with their moms and she is constantly stressed-no one cares for her-hopefully before it is too late she needs counseling and someone to talk to. I told her she had to be willing and I would see to it. She then wrote that she loved me more than anything and that I am her best friend.
We have an appointment for counseling this Tuesday at 12:30-she has continued to say she can't wait. She also wrote me on Wednesday and said she wants to come home by the end of the month. I asked her what was specific about then--she simply said I just want to come home.I hope she won't change her mind.
hole he was. 2 he needed to be on my medical insurance. That's it. I knew I didn't love him. I just didn't believe that I could ever do any better. 
