Sam3
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Love says no and steps out of their way.
Another one for the Al-anon Fortune Cookie (tm).
Love says no and steps out of their way.
Easy for me to say, harder for me to do when I've been in your situation...but you offered him the choice of another sober living facility and he turned you down. You've tried with involuntary holds, hoping he will clear his head enough to get back on the wagon. It sounds like he just isn't ready. He's where he wants to be, which is in the middle of a full-blown relapse. I just wonder if rescuing him again won't just prevent or at least delay his realization that life sucks when we're too drunk to function...
Sorry to hear you're back on the treadmill. Well you have one foot on. It sounds like you are doing pretty good on your co-dependency.
I talked to my therapist about that. When my son isn't good I'm not good. I hate that my feelings are tied into another person's actions. I think that is how it is when we love someone and it's hard to change that pattern. I think as mothers we take on so much that we just aren't able to "fix".
Your son seems like he needs the structure that he had before. Some people just do and naturally we want them to move forward but not all are able to successfully.
I will continue to pray for your strength. That's all I do when there is nothing I can do.
So he went to work on the weekend, and I offered to come up and take him out to lunch, but he said no, he was fine, was going to buy food and get a haircut. Evil alcoholic roommate not around last two days. Landlord sent memo stating anyone caught with alcohol will be evicted (landlord consulted with his attorney) Maybe this will be a deterrent for difficult child as well. Maybe.
I have come to the realization that this is the best that it's going to be. We were hoping for a self supporting adult, but it is not to be