Amaze -
Oh honey - HOW CAN YOU LEAVE HIM THERE in another town? Cold, alone? out on the streets, hungry? Poor, penniless? What an AWFUL thing to do this time of year! I'm surprised at you! (crosses arms and looks up at the corner and away) - still looking away......still........huffs....tragic......just tragic.
Why you know what will happen if you go get him! You know - this could work this time. You go get him, and on the ride home you discusss house rules - you know - He MUST get a job, MUST go to court, MUST go to probation. Okay? Okay because you know if you go get him THIS time? He's going to appreciate this one last chance right? And then there's not when he gets a job, but WHEN his job pays him - he WILL give you most of the check so you can pay his fines and put back his money so he can get a place of his own in how many weeks - not months (laughs MONTHS......hahahaha chortle) nononononooo not months - he won't want to live there months - no no no ......of COURSE he will want to be on his own - I mean how long do you think he will want to do his own laundry, cook, clean up after himself, keep his stereo down, run the vacuum, clean the bathroom, and stay out of your personal things? hah ha haa you know he doesn't need tobe at your house! Silly Mom - Flop houses are for teenagers - right. RIGHT - so none of that for him - he'll have a job, you'll help him budget and OFF.HE.WILL.GO - and I bet in NO time - he will have a car - and a place of his own - and it won't be ;years before he's out or months - and you two will get along JUST like before - Remember how great that was - he was mowing the yard - taking out the trash - helping you pick up around the place.........not inviting strangers into your home whileyou were gone at work - working your butt off for two........and then when you invite your granddaughter over - I bet he can't wait to see her!
And where are my manners? Oh! You know I forgot that he has/or rather had a girlfriend and well, you know how young love is. I bet he can't wait to burn up your phone lines with "Oh no you did not" and "I miss you so bad honey" and all that other stuff young lovers who fall in and out of like say to each other these days Know what I mean?? Yeah - that is just the kind of stuff you won't want to be around to hear (insert finger) blech. But then again - if they get back TOGETHER? Have you thought about having that girl come live with you or what would happen if you go to work and - what did you tell us - she's in a garden club or some gang of girls? Wouldn't that be lovely to come home and have them on your patio? Maybe they'll go through your house and clean it out er....I mean clean it for you while you're at work one day. That would be special huh? Goodness only knows you should stock the fridge now with snacks just in case. Hmmm mmmm.
In any event I would guess that if your granddaughters Mother and the new girlfriend ever meet at your house that will be interesting for sure - you should get a camera for evidence - I mean FAMILY PHOTOS. Kinda somehwere between a Jerry Springer and a Hallmark Moment comes to mind. Like Witz said the baby N is an innocent in all of this - would imagine if her Daddy doesn't want her - that's going to be hard to fake feeling. Not sure what you do in that case. But I know if I had a granddaughter and my son was being a (words fail me) I'd want to seriously know how he felt about a baby in the exact same predicament. She has no home - needs help - and has no one. But she can't beg for help right now. Kudos to her Mom for taking care - even if he is my nephew - and your son - abandoning your daughter? Not - and I've had this talk with Dudes friend who did the exact same thing so did DF and in a nutshell we told him to take responsibility, man up, and not miss any days in her life. He knew she was his and if he had doubts - ask for paternity DNA whatever - but don't just abandon her. He did - the little girl is his - he got to spend time with her alone and now they are inseperable - despite him not getting along with the babys Mom. But he's glad for having her. And we didn't let him come to live with us when he got thrown out of the group home either - that was tough too. He was like a brother to Dude.
So even though this is a little tongue in cheek - and you're probably reading this and waiting for him to come "Home" and hoping it all works out - I wish you the best. Sometimes a rhino skin mom's gotta do - Oh phooey - you just tell him no - and let him figure it out. Period. Another vote for not likely to change if he comes home -----oh but wait he could.....if only....... (and kicks no wait you said positive.....I would place your butt up to your shoulders cause I'd expect the same)
Hugs and Love and congrats again on the beautiful little girl.
Star