In the last 24 hours, she has claimed to be pregnant, have iritis and a cyst on her colon, and stage two anal cancer. Busy little beaver, isn't she?
We have repeated over and over that the only thing that we will help her with is rehab and sober living which she refuses to do. So, we also suggested that she terminate the pregnancy as she is still drinking, taking xanax, and god knows what else and refuses to go to rehab to stop those behavoirs for the baby's sake. She says that she won't do that and this time (she had a previous abortion) and she is going to do everything it takes to "protect her family" except of course get sober.
So her solution is to blackmail us. She says that if we don't give her $1000 by tomorrow at 1:30 she will release damaging information against us that she has collected over the years about what terrible parents we have been and personal information about her sister. She knows that we live in a very conservative area and figures my suggestion to have an abortion will "ruin my reputation" with my students' parents.
I told her that I had contacted Facebook and told them about the threats and they said that if she followed through to let them know and they would delete her account. I told her that so now she says she has an alternate plan to "expose" us if we don't pay up by 1:30.
So we have now blocked her from all contact with us. She says she is desperate and hungry and doesn't have gas to get to her new job in the morning. There is a bus system which she refuses to take. Before I blocked her. I suggested food banks or to contact a crisis pregnancy center that would help her find resources if she truly wants to have this baby (if she is truly pregnant which I doubt).
Nope, none of that is good enough for my difficult child. We OWE her this money according to her because I gave birth to her. The $100,000 we spent for rehab obviously means nothing to her.
I have been reading Codependent No More and the author clearly states that we need to let her finally face the consequences of drinking which made her lose this job and put her in this predicament.
So we are holding strong but I don't know what tomorrow will bring. She gave us a 1:30 deadline before she "releases" this damaging information in a blog that she is writing.
I guess I will just have to release her two mug shots (she was arrested about a month ago for having xanax that was not prescribed to her) and her long history of mental health issues along with her heroin use. I don't think she will have much credibility after that.
I never thought it would come to this. She actually had been doing well for a while. I really believe I hate her now.
Kathy
We have repeated over and over that the only thing that we will help her with is rehab and sober living which she refuses to do. So, we also suggested that she terminate the pregnancy as she is still drinking, taking xanax, and god knows what else and refuses to go to rehab to stop those behavoirs for the baby's sake. She says that she won't do that and this time (she had a previous abortion) and she is going to do everything it takes to "protect her family" except of course get sober.
So her solution is to blackmail us. She says that if we don't give her $1000 by tomorrow at 1:30 she will release damaging information against us that she has collected over the years about what terrible parents we have been and personal information about her sister. She knows that we live in a very conservative area and figures my suggestion to have an abortion will "ruin my reputation" with my students' parents.
I told her that I had contacted Facebook and told them about the threats and they said that if she followed through to let them know and they would delete her account. I told her that so now she says she has an alternate plan to "expose" us if we don't pay up by 1:30.
So we have now blocked her from all contact with us. She says she is desperate and hungry and doesn't have gas to get to her new job in the morning. There is a bus system which she refuses to take. Before I blocked her. I suggested food banks or to contact a crisis pregnancy center that would help her find resources if she truly wants to have this baby (if she is truly pregnant which I doubt).
Nope, none of that is good enough for my difficult child. We OWE her this money according to her because I gave birth to her. The $100,000 we spent for rehab obviously means nothing to her.
I have been reading Codependent No More and the author clearly states that we need to let her finally face the consequences of drinking which made her lose this job and put her in this predicament.
So we are holding strong but I don't know what tomorrow will bring. She gave us a 1:30 deadline before she "releases" this damaging information in a blog that she is writing.
I guess I will just have to release her two mug shots (she was arrested about a month ago for having xanax that was not prescribed to her) and her long history of mental health issues along with her heroin use. I don't think she will have much credibility after that.
I never thought it would come to this. She actually had been doing well for a while. I really believe I hate her now.
Kathy