I've heard of parents doing that before. If that's what it takes. I don't quite understand the whole not wanting to work and move out thing. It still kills me that I'm not able to work these days. I was dying to go to work. Had my first "paycheck" job at 14, saving up to buy a car at 16. Got a better job at 16 so I could save up to move in with my husband-to-be 3 days after I turned 18. My niece and nephew were the same way and neither are NT. My niece also has MH issues. He could be somaticizing, which would explain the niggling health issues. by the way,my back always hurt from standing on my feet all day. I still did it. Standing on my feet for years (IT when I started out was NOT a sedentary job)did not wreck my back. Falling off horses, a couple of auto accidents, and screwing up lifting my husband's mobility scooter out of our car did that for me. I worked sick in ops ctrs and call ctrs, spread my germs around and caught whatever others were spreading around. Your son needs to "nut up" and get over himself. He's a big boy now, pardon the crudity.